WOMENS-HEALTH Messages for May, 2001: Re: Arousal and Orgasm problem

Re: Arousal and Orgasm problem

From: Anna (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 7 May 2001 13:58:07 -0500 (CDT)

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Clarissa,

congratulations on the wedding! :-) I had a similar problem with getting wet enough - going off the pill gave me a different problem (using condoms-ugh!), but it solved the lubrication issue beautifully. Maybe this is a case of picking the lesser evil?

Also, regarding the lack of orgasm: < clearing her throat> Do you masturbate? (It's National Masturbation Month!) If you do and you know you can have an orgasm, include you knowledge of what your body requires into your partner activities. If you don't, try it. It can open your eyes to your body.

If the issue is getting aroused at all, this might also be the pill or other meds or the pre-wedding stress or something else altogether - maybe you could just take the pressure off and decide to enjoy intimacy for now (even if it doesn't "do much") and tackle the arousal/orgasm question on your Honeymoon?

Good luck, Anna

At Mon, 7 May 2001, Clarissa wrote: >
>I'm 28 years old and have been on orthocyclen for 3-4 years now. I'm
>getting married in two months to the most wonderful man - we've been
>together for seven years. He is the only one I've ever had sexual
>relations with. My problem: I've never had an orgasm and often have
>trouble just staying aroused. I do not even get very wet most of the
>time. Lately its been getting worse. I'm sure some of it is the stress
>of the wedding planning, but I'm worried that I'll never achieve orgasm.
>Lately it is causing a lot of frustration on my part. I know
>psychological reasons can play a part in lack of arousal in women, as
>can birth control pills. What else could be causing this though? Are
>there medical reasons? I will talk to my doctor about this too, but I
>would like to research some of the possibilities first so I will be
>better able to talk to her about it. Also, if anyone could suggest some
>good books that might help me and my fiance with this issue, I'd really
>appreciate it. Books that explain how the female gets aroused, what the
>female orgasm is like, etc. Anything that would help us be better
>informed. (He is fully supporting me on this). Thank you for any
>advice you can give.

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