Re: Any College Students??? Missing classes anyone?????
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Thu Mar 25 13:29:35 2004
I am not a student but I am having issues with work. They are giving me
such grief about my attendance and I cannot handle it anymore. I can't
even
sleep at night because all I can think about is work and my attendance,
while I'm in pain. I have to go to so many Dr's appointments and have
some
days when the pain is physically so bad that I have to call someone to
come
look after my son as I am a single mom. Even on days when I have severe
pain they want a dr's note within 7 days of my absence but I cannot get
in
to see my gyne for weeks. then when I do get in to see him he's
frustrated
because he keeps saying that we cannot keep giving you notes every time
you
are in pain. I have been held back for promotions because of my
attendance
and feel like I'm being treated like a criminal. I think they are
trying to
make me quit.
The only way I know to cope is to arm myself with all the legal info I
can
to support myself and if they push me too far I will have to seek legal
help. I live in Canada and we have a pretty good Human Rights
Commission
and Labour Code to protect me. It's sad that I have to waste all my
free
time researching though instead of concentrating on getting better.
Sometimes it feels like such an up hill struggle.
I hope whoever said "Whatever doesn't kill you can only make you
stronger"
and "hard times build strength and character" knows what they're talking
about, because if not I'm not so sure why I'm working so hard.
Vanessa
At Thu, 25 Mar 2004, Sherly wrote:
>
>Hi everyone i 'm a junior in college and because I missed so many
>classes, I will perhaps graduate in 2006 or 2007 who knows. I was a
>premed student, dropped and doing nursing so I could spend less time in
>school. I have missed so many classes especially my bio and bio lab. I
>spoke to my prof but in my college your attendance is 10% of your grade.
>I had dr appointment during school time and several other pain killers
>which made me dizzy and tired. i kept pushing the date to have my
>surgery done. Finally I tried to get pregnant because I have loan and I
>was afraid to take medical leave. Anyway I am 11 weeks pregnant but I
>still have pain. I manage to go to school and ask the profs to return
>my work a little late. I'll say talk to your professors. I am sure
>they'll understand. Also ask for extension, work with other students or
>have other students call you if you can't make it to class. It is very
>hard but you can make it with prayers. Just don't give up and do what's
>best for you
>
>--
>Sherly
>
>At Tue, 23 Mar 2004, Melissa wrote:
>>
>>I tried to finnish school but after 2yrs it was too hard with endo and
>>wasn't worth the money. If I would have gotten my degree id be in no
>>condition to work in that proffession w/endo. Find a job that suits
>>your lifestyle for a while until you decide what to do.
>>
>>-Melissa
>>
>>At Tue, 23 Mar 2004, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
>>>
>>>At Tue, 23 Mar 2004, Softball wrote:
>>>>
>>>>Tiana, I know exactally what you are going through. I started with 17
>>>>hours this semester now at 14, but getting ready to drop my chemistry
>>>>class, which then I will be in the same boat as you and not ahve 12
>>>>hours unless i find another class. I'm tired and in pain all the time.
>>>>However, one thing I have for me is that I only go to class fro 8-9:30 2
>>>>days a week. All the rest I do online. However, I am finding it very
>>>>difficult to do my homework. I am used to A's and B's and I have a B-
>>>>and a C right now along with a D in chemistry. I thought about doing
>>>>the medical leave, but I know at least with my insurance that would kick
>>>>me off. I'm doing my best to tough it out and I figure with all that
>>>>i've been going through this semester a C would be acceptable. Or at
>>>>least I would have to accept it. Email me anytime at
>>>>softball34life@yahoo.com
>>>>
>>>>--
>>>>Softball
>>>>
>>>>At Tue, 23 Mar 2004, Tiana wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>HELP! I am a Junior in college and I am having the roughest time this
>>>>>semester. I have been experiencing so much pain and fatigue that I have
>>>>>missed a lot of classes this semester. I have talked to all of my
>>>>>professors about what I am going through and most of them are
>>>>>understanding. As far as grades are concerned I am doing well A's and
>>>>>B's but I know my attendance will bring down my overall scores.
>>>>>Depending on how my visit with the endo specialist goes I am considering
>>>>>taking a medical leave and taking Incompletes for this semester and
>>>>>making it up over the summer. Has anyone here done that before? How
>>>>>does it work? I am also in a bind with my insurance if I am not
>>>>>registered for atleast 12 credits (full-time status) I will not recieve
>>>>>medical insurance. Will the medical leave affect that? Is anyone
>>>>>familiar with this? Please help. I don't think I can make it through
>>>>>much more of the semester. The work is piling high and I just don't
>>>>>have the strength. Should I just suck it up? Anyone out there with some
>>>>>words of wisdom?
>>>>
>>>Hi, I sooo know where your're coming from! I'm a FIFTH year senior in
>>>college. I have had numerous problems with my health, and my school
>>>work. I had a 3.89 GPA, where as now I'm struggling with a 2.0 I have
>>>done medical leave, and summer classes, and can't seem to finish.
>>>Between getting into the classes I need, and surviving lecture, I wonder
>>>all the time if it will be worth it. I have to drive home (2.5
>>>hours!)every week for either a doc appointment or for my lupron shot. I
>>>strongly suggest you evaluate yourself to see if you can finish your
>>>semester's classes successfully. I toughed it out one year and ended
>>>lowering my GPA drastically. No school can erase the grades from
>>>classes you took, be it an A or a D. So, if you know you can finish the
>>>classes, and do well with them; do it. Otherwise, do the medical leave.
>>>If you do leave though, you will lose your insurance. If you're under
>>>23, you'll still be covered under your parents, if they have insurance.
>>>Or, you'll have to buy your own policy. After my medical leave last
>>>semester, I came back in the summer for classes which helped a lot. The
>>>classes were smaller, and the professor's had more time to deal with
>>>students one on one. I hope this helps a little. I know where you're
>>>coming from. I wish there was a way that students can take classes,
>>>even when they can't get there everyday.
>>>The system is such a catch 22. If you stay in school, you keep your
>>>insurance and your can get medical help. At the same time, you feel
>>>like crap, you have to make your schedule fit your dr.'s availability,
>>>and you have to deal with biopsies, hystersono's, etc. Not to mention
>>>class! Never mind the exams!
>>>If you leave, at least you can rest (finally), and have the time you
>>>need to go to the doc.'s. But, now you lose your insurance.
>>>So, you stay in school, and keep your insurance, and feel crappy all the
>>>time,. Or you go home, and be ABLE to go to the doc. but now can't
>>>afford to because of the insurance. When I learned all of this (about
>>>two years ago) I realized life isn't fair no matter how good of a person
>>>you are, and how hard you try. God, now I sound depressing.... It does
>>>get better. I'm back in school after two laps. One in Sep, and another
>>>in jan. I swear my dr.'s scheduled them on purpose to be at the
>>>begining of the semester. (OK maybe not, but I did keep on saying
>>>NOOOOO not during school!) Anyway, instead I am now part time, and
>>>bought the school ins. which is available for part time students too.
>>>This seems to be the best solution so far. In my opinion, I think that
>>>leaving isn't always the best solution. I missed school so much when I
>>>left! Yes! Okay, maybe not all the crap that comes with it, but you will
>>>miss the fact that you aren't learning anything new, and aren't
>>>accomplishing anything!
>>>Sorry this is so long. I just know all the frustration that comes along
>>>with the endo, and school. Good luck to you. Hopefully you'll start
>>>feeling better and will be able to finish. If you have any questions
>>>about the ins. or the school medical leave in more detail, I've been
>>>through it all. Feel free to ask any questions. Again good luck! Liza
>>>
>>>--
>>>Liza
>>>
>Hi everyone i 'm a junior in college and because I missed so many
>classes, I will perhaps graduate in 2006 or 2007 who knows. I was a
>premed student, dropped and doing nursing so I could spend less time in
>school. I have missed so many classes especially my bio and bio lab. I
>spoke to my prof but in my college your attendance is 10% of your grade.
>I had dr appointment during school time and several other pain killers
>which made me dizzy and tired. i kept pushing the date to have my
>surgery done. Finally I tried to get pregnant because I have loan and I
>was afraid to take medical leave. Anyway I am 11 weeks pregnant but I
>still have pain. I manage to go to school and ask the profs to return
>my work a little late. I'll say talk to your professors. I am sure
>they'll understand. Also ask for extension, work with other students or
>have other students call you if you can't make it to class. It is very
>hard but you can make it with prayers. Just don't give up and do what's
>best for you
>
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