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Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
From: JANET (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Sep 30 15:30:48 1999
Denise,
Hi. How are ya? The problem is, is that he may never understand it. And
alot of the women who have it also don't understand that it wont go away.
Alot like to think or dont know that it's a chronic debilitating disease
that will be with us for the rest of our lives. But I go my newsletter the
other day from the Endo. Assoc. And they have more money now.Vanderbilt
again has commited to 2 million, in addition a grant to build a womens
reproductive research center, providing an additional 3.75 million over 5
years. I wish for those of you that dont get the newsletter (or are'nt
members) I could figure out my scanner, ( I will have Matt show me hoiw
again, we will see if i get it this time) so I could send a copy so you can
read it. So there is hope out there for us girls. Sorry I got off the
subject Denise. Tell him it's a chronic illness just like arthritis is, and
you guys have to live with and deal with together. There is no other way
around it. My hubby is finally understanding. It used to be when I had
surgery and we would see the doc afterwards, he would always ask doc, when
is this going to go away? NEVER! Well, I really gotta check the other mail.
Jan
-----Original Message-----
From: Denise <anonymous@obgyn.net>
To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <anonymous@obgyn.net>
Date: Thursday, September 30, 1999 9:17 AM
Subject: Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
>Thanks Jan. How do I get him to understand that this may never go away?
>We've talked before and I've expressed how scared I am and he still seems
to
>believe that it will just go away. Even when I tell him it might not, he
>doesn't seem to think so. I've asked him to read articles and he's read
>some, but I don't think he gets it. (He shares the housework with me and
>due to my surgery & the pain he's probably been doing more than his share,
>but I also work full time and go to school one night a week.) Was it this
>hard to get the message through to anyone elses significant other?
>
>> ----------
>> From: JANET BENEDICT[SMTP:mattjan@iserv.net]
>> Reply To: endo@obgyn.net
>> Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 5:33 PM
>> To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO
>> Subject: Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
>>
>> Denise,
>> Hi sweetie. Please do NOT let him call you lazy. God I hate that. My
>> husband would never dare call me that. I am the one who does the whole
>> house
>> though, so he would never dare. I know you want your old self back, but
we
>> know that it cant happen, at least not the same completely. What you have
>> to
>> do is TALK to your husband. Even have a cry with him. Or tell him how
your
>> feeling while your crying, it will work. He needs to know that your
scared
>> too and that you know what he is feeling and let him know how your
>> feeling,
>> or no-one will know how the other feels , ever. And working out is a
>> good
>> thing. He is just trying to get you motivated i think. It may give you
>> more
>> energy. It does me sometimes, when i can do it. I used to work out all
the
>> time and wanted to be in a bodybuilding thing, but i started getting
>> worse,
>> so i do know how you feel in a way. Well, i have to get to Emer's
>> response,
>> I hope you and hubby talk and can get closer, if thats truly what you
both
>> want. Jan
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Denise <DSullivan@Orgill.com>
>> To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <endo@talk.obgyn.net>
>> Date: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 10:40 AM
>> Subject: RE: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
>>
>> >Emer you're not the only one. When I first began having these problems
>> my
>> >hubby was so interested in what was going on. He's stayed pretty
>> interested
>> >throughout the whole thing, only lately he keeps on bugging me. He
tells
>> me
>> >I need to go and work out, cause I'm lazy (only he doesn't understand
>> that
>> >it hurts), he always prods at me for sleeping when I get home from work
>> >(it's just a nap that I need -- CRAP, I can barely make it through work
>> most
>> >days! I guess he's just as fed up with all of this as me. I think what
>> he
>> >wants is his ole wifey back. I guess I can't blame him, I would like me
>> back
>> >too......Denise
>> >
>> >> ----------
>> >> From: Emer _[SMTP:jenny_emer@hotmail.com]
>> >> Reply To: endo@obgyn.net
>> >> Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 8:27 AM
>> >> To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO
>> >> Subject: Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
>> >>
>> >> Janet,
>> >> I am not on antidepressents, and never have been, I will mention this
>> >> horrible feeling when I next visit the gyny though, It is no more like
>> me!
>> >> As for me getting drunk,,the funny thing is that I don't drink,,well
>> >> rarely!!,,once every 6 months or so, you see I hate hangovers so much
>> that
>> >> I
>> >> gave it up!
>> >> I think I have fallen out of love with hubby, he is more like a best
>> >> friend
>> >> to me most of the time, and he is being less and less a friend these
>> days.
>> >>
>> >> All he seems to do is come home, go outside to check to see how our
new
>> >> house is coming on, then watch t.v. in the bedroom, while I go onto
the
>> >> puter!
>> >> I know he isn't nor hasn't cheated on me, he isn't that type, I would
>> >> know,
>> >> cos I can read him like a book. Its just that he doesn't seem to want
>> to
>> >> know how I am feeling, cos he is scared cos I am sick,,it has been
like
>> >> this
>> >> since I was diagnosed.
>> >>
>> >> I dunno, I just can't seem to get him to realise that if he was more
>> >> interested in me and this bloody disease, it would help me so much.
>> >>
>> >> He has no idea that I feel this bad, in fact you lot are the only ones
>> I
>> >> have told.
>> >>
>> >> Once again., thanks a mill Jan, I needed to hear and answer what you
>> >> asked.
>> >>
>> >> Emer
>> >>
>> >> http://www.iGive.com/html/ssi.cfm?cid=4062&mid=74050 .....Click on
this
>> >> link
>> >> to earn money for a charity,,it doesn't cost you, in fact you get a $5
>> >> gift
>> >> cert.! ,,,,Go on, I dare you to!
>> >>
>> >
>>
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