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Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
From: Denise (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Sep 30 08:14:42 1999
Thanks Jan. How do I get him to understand that this may never go away?
We've talked before and I've expressed how scared I am and he still seems to
believe that it will just go away. Even when I tell him it might not, he
doesn't seem to think so. I've asked him to read articles and he's read
some, but I don't think he gets it. (He shares the housework with me and
due to my surgery & the pain he's probably been doing more than his share,
but I also work full time and go to school one night a week.) Was it this
hard to get the message through to anyone elses significant other?
> ----------
> From: JANET BENEDICT[SMTP:mattjan@iserv.net]
> Reply To: endo@obgyn.net
> Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 5:33 PM
> To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO
> Subject: Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
>
> Denise,
> Hi sweetie. Please do NOT let him call you lazy. God I hate that. My
> husband would never dare call me that. I am the one who does the whole
> house
> though, so he would never dare. I know you want your old self back, but we
> know that it cant happen, at least not the same completely. What you have
> to
> do is TALK to your husband. Even have a cry with him. Or tell him how your
> feeling while your crying, it will work. He needs to know that your scared
> too and that you know what he is feeling and let him know how your
> feeling,
> or no-one will know how the other feels , ever. And working out is a
> good
> thing. He is just trying to get you motivated i think. It may give you
> more
> energy. It does me sometimes, when i can do it. I used to work out all the
> time and wanted to be in a bodybuilding thing, but i started getting
> worse,
> so i do know how you feel in a way. Well, i have to get to Emer's
> response,
> I hope you and hubby talk and can get closer, if thats truly what you both
> want. Jan
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Denise <DSullivan@Orgill.com>
> To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <endo@talk.obgyn.net>
> Date: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 10:40 AM
> Subject: RE: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
>
> >Emer you're not the only one. When I first began having these problems
> my
> >hubby was so interested in what was going on. He's stayed pretty
> interested
> >throughout the whole thing, only lately he keeps on bugging me. He tells
> me
> >I need to go and work out, cause I'm lazy (only he doesn't understand
> that
> >it hurts), he always prods at me for sleeping when I get home from work
> >(it's just a nap that I need -- CRAP, I can barely make it through work
> most
> >days! I guess he's just as fed up with all of this as me. I think what
> he
> >wants is his ole wifey back. I guess I can't blame him, I would like me
> back
> >too......Denise
> >
> >> ----------
> >> From: Emer _[SMTP:jenny_emer@hotmail.com]
> >> Reply To: endo@obgyn.net
> >> Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 1999 8:27 AM
> >> To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO
> >> Subject: Re: Sometimes, I just wish,,,,,,Jan
> >>
> >> Janet,
> >> I am not on antidepressents, and never have been, I will mention this
> >> horrible feeling when I next visit the gyny though, It is no more like
> me!
> >> As for me getting drunk,,the funny thing is that I don't drink,,well
> >> rarely!!,,once every 6 months or so, you see I hate hangovers so much
> that
> >> I
> >> gave it up!
> >> I think I have fallen out of love with hubby, he is more like a best
> >> friend
> >> to me most of the time, and he is being less and less a friend these
> days.
> >>
> >> All he seems to do is come home, go outside to check to see how our new
> >> house is coming on, then watch t.v. in the bedroom, while I go onto the
> >> puter!
> >> I know he isn't nor hasn't cheated on me, he isn't that type, I would
> >> know,
> >> cos I can read him like a book. Its just that he doesn't seem to want
> to
> >> know how I am feeling, cos he is scared cos I am sick,,it has been like
> >> this
> >> since I was diagnosed.
> >>
> >> I dunno, I just can't seem to get him to realise that if he was more
> >> interested in me and this bloody disease, it would help me so much.
> >>
> >> He has no idea that I feel this bad, in fact you lot are the only ones
> I
> >> have told.
> >>
> >> Once again., thanks a mill Jan, I needed to hear and answer what you
> >> asked.
> >>
> >> Emer
> >>
> >> http://www.iGive.com/html/ssi.cfm?cid=4062&mid=74050 .....Click on this
> >> link
> >> to earn money for a charity,,it doesn't cost you, in fact you get a $5
> >> gift
> >> cert.! ,,,,Go on, I dare you to!
> >>
> >
>
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