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Re: Help?????Ready?
From: Cyndi (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon May 31 08:06:13 1999
I agree with you Kathryn, I am going to be 31 this August and have always
been aware that I could be running out of time to have children. Friends
(my family never pushes me - bless them!!) will say "if you wait to be ready
you'll never have children" and I agree that if you wait to have enough
money, a big enough house, etc.. you many never be ready, but if you do not
feel ready in your heart and in your mind then you should do what your gut
tells you. I'm not sure I could have been the best parent I could be if I
had had a child 5 years ago just because I felt I better do it now or loose
out.
I finally feel I am in a place where I am ready to be a parent and me and my
partner will probably start trying closer to the end of this year. Only you
know what's best for you.
Hugs :-)
Cyndi
> Hi Jan
>
> What I meant when I said that I wasn't ready to start a family is that I
> don't feel ready for the responsibility of a family. I agree that there
> isn't really a 'ready' time with regard to career, etc, but I do feel that
> you need to be ready for the responsibility.
>
> Kathryn
>
> >From: "JANET" <mattjan@iserv.net>
> >Reply-To: endo@obgyn.net
> >To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <endo@talk.obgyn.net>
> >Subject: Re: Help?????Ready?
> >Date: Sun, 30 May 1999 09:55:33 -0500
> >
> >Ther is no such thing as ever being ready for a family. There is always
> >asomething that is making it not the right time, money, relationships,
> >travel, career, whatever. If everybody waited till they were ready there
> >would'nt be many babies born. No such thing as being ready, really. I'm
not
> >ready and I'm pregnant with number 4, I would've loved to do SO MUCH
more,
> >but my body chose when it was right, if i would've waited i probably
> >would'nt have any kids, or any other responsibilities for that matter.
> >Jan B MI
> >-----Original Message-----
> >From: Kathryn <kendo21@hotmail.com>
> >To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <endo@talk.obgyn.net>
> >Date: Sunday, May 23, 1999 12:20 AM
> >Subject: Re: Help?????
> >
> > >Hi Kim
> > >
> > >This may not be the answer but is from my experiences. I was diagnosed
> >with
> > >endo 8 years ago and have been up and down with the condition since. I
> >have
> > >tried various treatments except the pill (I have too many problems with
> >it)
> > >and have missed my periods for anything up to two years. Each time that
I
> > >have had treatment and not had a period the pain after the treatment
was
> > >unbearable, especially the first period afterwards. I thought that I
was
> > >going to explode! I have had doctors tell me to have my left ovary
> >removed
> > >and then my right one. I still have both of them and am in no hurry to
> >get
> > >them removed, but that is what works for me. If you ever face this, do
> >what
> > >you feel is right at the time. My decision to hang on to them is due to
> >the
> > >fact that I wasn't ready to start a family or go through menopause. I
> >have
> > >been told that I shouldn't wait past 30 to start a family. I am 28 now
> >and
> >I
> > >still haven't started because I believe that you shouldn't start until
> >you
> > >are ready. I'm still not ready and it may come a time when I am ready
> >that
> > >it may be too late. I will face that when I come to it but, for now, I
am
> > >glad that I haven't started yet because I know that I wouldn't be happy
> >as
> >I
> > >am not ready. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything. It's your
body
> >-
> > >you're in charge. Anyone else can only offer any opinion. I listen to
my
> > >'gut' feelings. They may not always say what I want them to say but
they
> >are
> > >always right.
> > >
> > >Kathryn
> > >
> > >>From: pinn36@aol.com (Kim)
> > >>Reply-To: endo@obgyn.net
> > >>To: Multiple recipients of list ENDO <endo@talk.obgyn.net>
> > >>Subject: Help?????
> > >>Date: Sat, 22 May 1999 08:36:43 -0500
> > >>
> > >>I am a twenty three year old married female. I have been through
quite
> > >>an ordeal since I was 19 years old. I have had my left ovary removed,
> > >>and several cysts removed from my right ovary. I was diagnosed with
> > >>endo about 3 years ago. The pain was so terrible, but I did not want
to
> > >>have another surgery, two was enough at that age! So I went on Lupron
> > >>for a year or so. The pain stopped. I felt fantastic. I was put
back
> > >>on the pill, and everything was okay. A year later, and married, I
have
> > >>missed my period for almost 4 months now. So they took me off of the
> > >>pill. It's been three weeks since I've been off the pill and I am in
> > >>tremendous pain. I had an ultrasound, and everything looked okay. I
> > >>had three follicles on my one ovary. What does that mean? My doc
thinks
> > >>my body might be trying to ovulate. Do you not ovulate when you are
on
> > >>the pill? Well he told me I am going to have some tough decisions if
the
> > >>pain does not go away. My husband and I want to have kids and I feel
> > >>kind of pressured to start soon, or I may not be able to have them at
> > >>all. So I am really confused. I don't know a whole lot about endo
> > >>since I was so young when I was diagnoed, I really didn't think about
> > >>it. Now I am really worried. Can someone help???
> > >>
> > >>--
> > >>Kim
> > >>
> > >
> >
>
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