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Re: hysterectomy
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Mon May 17 15:35:46 1999
Hi
Im having the same problem, my partner of 14 years is scared to cuddle me incase
I am sore. That hurts more than the Endo I have had it for 3 years but was only
diagnosed 13 days ago, I think I am scared to have sex as well as him, we are
just going to have to start at the beginning and get to know each other again,
havent made love in months cause pain was so bad, Sorry for rambling
Debbie(UK)
Diane Farley wrote:
> Suzy,
>
> In reply to this posting:
>
> " agree with you on the fact that the Endo affects us both, but the reason
> that I am having problems with Andy (fiance) now is because he doesn't WANT
> to know what is causing all this pain, and it's like he doesn't care. I
> know that he does, but all he sees is that I don't want to have sex with
> him, and I think that he thinks that it is all his fault. I do not know how
> to make him feel any differently! I need help in that department!"
>
> I wouldn't have wanted to go through Endo without my husband to help and
> support me. Please take the time now before you are married to think about
> whether you will get help and support. Now I'm not a marriage counselor,
> but have been married for 16 years now. Life in a marriage is full of ups
> and downs for people that have "normal" lives, but for those of us that were
> unfortunate to have Endo that causes a whole new set of problems. So think
> about it.
>
> Regarding sex, my husband also did think it was his fault that I would have
> pain after sex. Of course, it wasn't, but to him it sure seemed like a
> direct result. I'm not any kind of expert, but you should maybe look into
> other ways "to show your love" that don't hurt.
>
> Diane
>
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