Re: Toni
From: Frank (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Feb 25 09:36:04 1999
Toni,
I wish you were not going through this!! I'm sorry you are feeling so bad! Hang in there!
Twy
-----Original Message-----
From: Toni Welsh [SMTP:anonymous@obgyn.net
Sent: Thursday, February 25, 1999 6:31 AM
To: Multiple recipients of list
Subject: Re: Toni
At Thu, 25 Feb 1999, Christine wrote:
>
>HI Toni:
>I took a quick look at the doctor's forum (I like to punish myself
>sometimes :<) and I was shocked to find that you are still posting there
>for other than medical advice from the doctors. I am hurt that you
>didn't find the support you are looking for here! I liked Denise's
>answer to you-I would've said the same thing to you had I thought you'd
>be receptive to the spiritual approach. I usually don't do that unless
>someone indicates to me that they would be interested. But she is
>definitely right! God not only doesn't give you more than you can handle
>(and sometimes his idea of what you can handle is a lot different than
>yours) he has given other people a lot worse in life (I know I gave you
>a few examples) I know this isn't too helpful to say that so I don't
>continue with that. I have seen some real unfair situations people have
>found themselves in. And they go on because deep down people want to
>survive. Personally, when something happens to me and the natural
>tendency is to say "Why me?" I try to think "Well, why not me?" God
>never promised us a rose garden as the expression goes! These unfair (in
>our eyes) situations will all be explained to us someday and we will see
>the sense of it. I will get out of the pulpit now. :<)
>I really don't think you can say no one is trying to help you. On one
>hand you say your gyn is the greatest in the world, understands you
>completely,you trust no one else, and then you say no one is trying to
>help. Well, you must think he is trying to help you or you wouldn't
>feel that way about him. It sounds as if the pain clinic is trying to
>help you. The only one I would say would be the insurance company who
>is not trying to help you, but everyone knows where they are coming
>from! What else can anyone do? You say you believe your gyn when he says
>they can't operate again so soon. I think deep down you know that
>handing you a prescription for mind numbing narcotics would not be the
>answer. I think what you want to do is wake up and have this problem
>completely gone. That's probably not going to happen. So the next
>thing to do is deal with it. If you really think no one is trying to
>help you, then the next step is to keep trying to find someone to help
>you. If that means looking for another doctor, then do it. But you
>won't-you trust no one else but your gyn. I am so impressed by the
>posts I read here about women who travel to all parts of the country to
>get treatment. If you really think your gyn is the one for you and you
>trust him, then trust his treatment plan.
>Denise is also 100% right about what she said about huting those around
>you with the idea you have about the drugs-your husband, your sisters,
>your SON, your gyn! The guilt relatives and friends feel when someone
>close to them does this is incredible. They keep thinking "Was there
>*something* else we could have done. Maybe we could have done
>*something* and this wouldn't have happened". It would be a terrible
>thing to do to those you love and who love you.
>So, if you are not satisfied with how things are going then DO SOMETHING
>POSITIVE. Move up your appointment with you gyn and explain to him how
>you feel. (including this idea of yours) Ask *specific* questions and
>then believe the answers. If you don't believe the answers, go to
>someone else.By the way, that always works with me. There have been
>times when I didn't believe my gyn ( or another doctor) so I start
>asking around-to other patients, other doctors, and if I find them
>saying the same thing, I think well maybe I was wrong.
> Please listen and hang in there!
>
>Chris S.
Chris,
Please do not yell at me, I just do not feel weel, and I am not
expectimg to wake up and this be gone. I told my husband how I was
feeling last night, and he is on vacation next week, and he too, trusts
the gyn, I know the dr is doing all he can do, Doug told me lasy night
the gyn told him he is buying time UNTIL he can operate again, I DO
trust his treatment, but when NOTHING is helping you, I do not care what
anyone says EMOTIONALLY this pulls you down, I told the gyn that last
week, when we talked on the phone. Like I said he has to know that
anyway, cause I was crying for quite awhile, and he has NEVER seen me
like this!
I am sorry if I upset you, I just cannot seem to eat, walk , of do
anything without pain, and the pain is SO hard to explain, there are so
many, and the dgyn told me too to keep a pain diary, he said you cannot
remember everything. I will do that, but this is putting a strain on
life roght now, I am sorry I cannot help it, I have never complained and
never had to deal with this sort of thing, and for the drs to not be
able to help us, well you know what I mean. I really am sorry I upset
you, but like I said I am NOT enjoying life, although, when my son and
husband get home they make me laugh! Maybe it is good that he is on
vacation next week!
Thank you for caring, toni
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