Re: Toni
From: Linda (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Jan 14 13:27:16 1999
Toni-
I agree 900% with Chris - taking a high dose of medicine will only
make bad things worse!!!
All those doctors who are telling you it's in your head - you don't
want to give them an ammo to use to prove some SILLY point.
This isn't an easy battle, but it's one you've been dealt and you can
win if you don't give up.
There is nothing wrong with counseling when you've been through the
issues you've been through. Plus, by going you could reinforce those
SILLY points by showing you have already been to counseling and these
problems/pain still exist.
Think about it - Chris has some excellent points.
Linda
Reno, NV
---"Christine M. Smith" <anonymous@obgyn.net> wrote:
>
> Hi Toni:
>
> I understand what you are saying, I really do. However....I
> repeat....taking a high dose of medicine "to make yourself really
sick"
> will not accomplish anything.(other than making yourself really sick
or
> worse) By doing that, no one is going to believe you anymore than they
> do now. In fact, it could work the opposite way. By making it look
> like you are unstable, then they might not believe you at all in the
> future. Anyway WHO CARES? The people that are important to you
believe
> you and that's all that matters. You don't have to prove anything to
> those other dufouses. You have a doctor you trust and admire-you are
> way ahead of a lot of people with that. You don't have to see those
> other people again. (the old GI doc, the general surgeon)
>
> It is understandable that you are down with all that's gone on in your
> life medically over the past few years-your Mom, your son, your
sister.
> This weather is enough to make anyone stir crazy. I'm kind of curious
> how your sister is doing. It would be my guess that she is not
looking
> at her colostomy the way you are. I bet it has giving her her life
back
> after the misery I'm sure she must have gone through. There are worse
> things that can happen to a person, believe me! I worked on a rehab
> floor before it became medical and I really saw a lot. people who had
> to relearn basic functions because of a head or spinal cord injury
from
> one stupid mistake they made. One lady had to ring the desk to have
> someone come and scratch her itch somewhere. She had gotten drunk and
> rolled off a roof porch. Another young man landed up in a wheelchair
> for life because he and a group of college friends were horsing around
> pool-side and he was thrown in and hit the bottom the wrong way.
Another
> young man was in a car accident and paralyzed from the waist down.
The
> only way he can have a bowel movement (necessary for life, sorry I'm
> gross) is to insert a suppository and then "disempact" himself, (or
have
> someone else do it) which means he has to put his fingers up his you
> know what and pull it out! (Sorry) I'm sorry, I'm really getting
carried
> away here but this is all true.
> I know what happened to your mother was an awful thing and the doctor
> sounds like he was certainly negligent to send her home with a bp like
> that. There is nothing I can say about that-even though it's been two
> years, I'm sure it's still very vivid in your mind. I'm sure that's
> normal. However, saying you will take a high dose of medicine to make
> yourself really sick so others will believe you is NOT normal, Toni.
I
> think it might help you a lot if you asked your gyn about some
> professional counseling. Maybe that will come with the pain
management
> business. This board is great, but it can not do that.
>
> I wish someone else on this board would agree with me on this, or tell
> me to butt out.
>
> Chris
>
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