Re: Confused and hurt
From: M (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Aug 31 20:48:07 1998
Hi Kelly,
My heart goes out to you. I haven't been 19 for a long time. But, I
remember how painful it was to have my heart broken at that time. It
will get better and time heals all wounds. Eventually, the ex-fiancee
will realize partying all the time and dating lots of women is not all
that fulfilling. He'll also realize breaking up w/you was probably one
of the dumbest things he's ever done. Hopefully, by then, you'll have
figured out he left because he's an immature young man, it wasn't your
fault, you are worth a whole heck of a lot and deserve way better than
him! You might not find Mr Right tomorrow, but you will find him. Don't
give up and DON'T think you aren't worth anything, because you are. Good
luck.
At Mon, 31 Aug 1998, Kelly wrote:
>
>Heather:
>
>hello, I now I have the hardest time thinking that I am worth something.
>My ex fiancee has made me believe that I can't do anything right, I am
>abnormal he has just made me feel like I'm not worth anything, Well
>last weekend I did meet a guy Eric, he is so sweet. So who knows, I'll
>let you know how it goes.
>
>Kelly
>
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>>>Hi, my name is Kelly and I'm 19. Was diagnosed with endo of May this
>>>year. I was with my fiancee for 3 and a half years, then last month
>he
>>>decided he didn't love me anymore. I believe he found someone else
>who
>>>could have children and intercourse with him. It just really hurts,
>>now
>>>I'm in the dating scene, which is so hard. I just don't now how to
>>feel
>>>anymore. How do you get over someone you've been with for so long. I
>>>can't seem to forget him, but he's out parting every night and dating
>>>all these girls. My mom keeps telling me to not worry, he was no good
>>>anyway. Which he wasen't, now that I'm not with him I relieze how bad
>>>he treated me. But that still dosen't fix my broken heart. I guess
>>>what my question is, are thereany nice guys out there who dosen't
>>matter
>>>if you have endo?
>>>
>>>Thanks for listening!!!
>>>
>>>Kelly
>>>
>>>>Lori and Di:
>>>>
>>>>Just last night, I felt the way you describe about your mates. My
>>>>husband is also quite understanding when we can't do things or be
>>>>intimate when we may want to because I am hurting. He says there are
>>>>more things to life and we'll get to them when we do. In the back of
>>my
>>>>head, I wonder if he'll ever leave me because it might get to him,
>>but,
>>>>I think it is insecurity and desire to not want to be a burden on my
>>>>part. I can turn inward when I feel bad or tired of going through the
>>>>ordeal any more, but I try to remember that things could be worse.
>>It's
>>>>too bad that intercourse, which is supposed to be a fantastic thing,
>>>can
>>>>be painful for me and adds to the mental feelings of insecurity,
>>>>abnormality and unreliability, like last night when I cried because
>of
>>>>the pain on my left side. Oh, well, I thought I'd share the blessing
>>of
>>>>having a supportive mate; I hope it will always last (our first
>>>>anniversary is November 1).
>>>>
>>>>Best wishes,
>>>>
>>>>Susan
>>>>
>>kelly,
>>
>>a good man is hard to find, that's for sure. but when the love is
>real,
>>i think everything else works out. my fiance (we've been together
>>almost two years) is sexually hyper-active; but he is very
>understanding
>>that sometimes i just can't. that kind of understanding is not common,
>>but it does exist. you'll find it.
>>
>>i think the biggest thing i've had to deal with is forgiving myself,
>and
>>valuing myself, even though i'm "abnormal". that has helped
>>immeasurably. Just don't blame yourself for the piggish way he's
>acted.
>>Remember the fact that guys at that age have their heads you know
>where,
>>and very rarely recognize a good thing when they see it. I know that
>>you're in a terrible spot right now, but this, too, shall pass. Hang
>in
>>there and remember that you ARE beautiful and valuable.
>>
>>heather
>>
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