Re: Confused and hurt
From: Kelly (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Aug 31 19:31:17 1998
Heather:
hello, I now I have the hardest time thinking that I am worth something.
My ex fiancee has made me believe that I can't do anything right, I am
abnormal he has just made me feel like I'm not worth anything, Well
last weekend I did meet a guy Eric, he is so sweet. So who knows, I'll
let you know how it goes.
Kelly
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>>
>>Hi, my name is Kelly and I'm 19. Was diagnosed with endo of May this
>>year. I was with my fiancee for 3 and a half years, then last month
he
>>decided he didn't love me anymore. I believe he found someone else
who
>>could have children and intercourse with him. It just really hurts,
>now
>>I'm in the dating scene, which is so hard. I just don't now how to
>feel
>>anymore. How do you get over someone you've been with for so long. I
>>can't seem to forget him, but he's out parting every night and dating
>>all these girls. My mom keeps telling me to not worry, he was no good
>>anyway. Which he wasen't, now that I'm not with him I relieze how bad
>>he treated me. But that still dosen't fix my broken heart. I guess
>>what my question is, are thereany nice guys out there who dosen't
>matter
>>if you have endo?
>>
>>Thanks for listening!!!
>>
>>Kelly
>>
>>>
>>>Lori and Di:
>>>
>>>Just last night, I felt the way you describe about your mates. My
>>>husband is also quite understanding when we can't do things or be
>>>intimate when we may want to because I am hurting. He says there are
>>>more things to life and we'll get to them when we do. In the back of
>my
>>>head, I wonder if he'll ever leave me because it might get to him,
>but,
>>>I think it is insecurity and desire to not want to be a burden on my
>>>part. I can turn inward when I feel bad or tired of going through the
>>>ordeal any more, but I try to remember that things could be worse.
>It's
>>>too bad that intercourse, which is supposed to be a fantastic thing,
>>can
>>>be painful for me and adds to the mental feelings of insecurity,
>>>abnormality and unreliability, like last night when I cried because
of
>>>the pain on my left side. Oh, well, I thought I'd share the blessing
>of
>>>having a supportive mate; I hope it will always last (our first
>>>anniversary is November 1).
>>>
>>>Best wishes,
>>>
>>>Susan
>>>
>kelly,
>
>a good man is hard to find, that's for sure. but when the love is
real,
>i think everything else works out. my fiance (we've been together
>almost two years) is sexually hyper-active; but he is very
understanding
>that sometimes i just can't. that kind of understanding is not common,
>but it does exist. you'll find it.
>
>i think the biggest thing i've had to deal with is forgiving myself,
and
>valuing myself, even though i'm "abnormal". that has helped
>immeasurably. Just don't blame yourself for the piggish way he's
acted.
>Remember the fact that guys at that age have their heads you know
where,
>and very rarely recognize a good thing when they see it. I know that
>you're in a terrible spot right now, but this, too, shall pass. Hang
in
>there and remember that you ARE beautiful and valuable.
>
>heather
>
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