Re: Harassed at work because of health
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri Sep 26 15:59:46 2008
Just do the best that you can. If you can stay at work, it is
definitely better. I was let go because of my illness and absence, and
my FMLA ran out. I was part of a union and it did nothing for me. This
disease really stinks. See if you can work from home perhaps run your
own business? I wish I had more to offer you in way of suggestions.
Please take care. I am going to get a hysterectomy myself - perhaps
this is not such a bad suggestion?
Wishing you pain free days.
Mel
At Fri, 26 Sep 2008, Kathy wrote:
>
>Hello all,
>
>I'm currently on an Intermittent FMLA leave from work. This was
>originally due to my endo. I was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago with
>Fibromyalgia, which explained even more why I have been feeling so
>miserable and like my entire body is breaking on me. On average, I miss
>about a day a week of work due to pain from one or the other (sometimes
>both). I try very hard to go in as I'm not married and living on my own
>so if I don't pay my bills, I'll be living in a box on the corner, lol.
>However, this week has been horrendous and I have missed 3 days because
>of it. My problem is this. I feel like I'm being a little...harassed
>at work because of this. I'm not sure if harassed is the right word,
>but that's what it feels like. I'm a quiet person at work and I try to
>always keep a smile on my face and be friendly to people. I think it's
>for this reason that people doubt me or don't believe me. But I work in
>customer service, so I basically HAVE to be that way. Every time I'm
>out for more then a day at a time, my supervisor calls me in to her
>office to "talk" about what I'm going to do "about my health". She
>keeps telling me I need to "do something" but I keep explaining to her
>that realistically, there's nothing that CAN be done...it's not like
>they can just do something and I'm all fixed. Lately she's really been
>talking about how I need to get a hysterectomy if they can't do
>anything. I'm only 28 years old and I have no kids. I'm not sure if I
>want kids (I always have, but have prepared myself in case I can't have
>them). But I am definitely not ready to just cut everything out and say
>"Oh well, guess no kids for me"...especially when a hysterectomy doesn't
>always get rid of endo. She also doesn't understand the severity of my
>Fibromyalgia and told me my docotr must be a "quack". She also keeps
>telling me I need to "figure this out" because when my FMLA runs out, I
>can't go on it again, which doesn't seem right to me. Also, the girls
>at work are constantly making loud comments about how I won't be able to
>have kids...this is usually after I've missed a day at work and they're
>mad about it (I guess). Between my health and this other mess at work,
>I am miserable. Does anyone have any suggestions? My HR department is
>pointless and doesn't do anything to help anyone. Not to mention, my
>supervisors a little "opinionated and loud", so I'm not really good at
>approaching her. I would love to work from home so I can deal with
>this, but most likely they'll come up with a reason I can't.
>
>Any suggestions??? PLEASE help...so miserable...
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