Re: When should I try getting pregnant?
From: Ally (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun Jul 27 12:14:40 2008
Hi Cassie,
Ugh. I'm sorry that your endo was so bad. I also suffered through a
bowel resection and have severe endo. I feel your pain!
I guess you really need to decide what is more important: getting
married, being financially secure, or having a child. I can tell you
that my priorities were marriage, house, kids. We were able to do the
first two, but are still waiting on the kids. It's been two years now.
I did have excision surgery in Dec. and we have not had any luck yet.
My doc said fertility rates are increased up to a year post-op. We are
now onto fertility treatments.
There was a right time for us to start trying for kids. It was after we
were married. Not everyone feels the same way. You have to decide for
yourself if you want to have children before marriage based on your
moral and religious beliefs. What does your partner think about all
this?
I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide!
--
Ally
At Sun, 27 Jul 2008, Cassie wrote:
>
>Hi
>
>No I am not in the US. I live in New Zealand. Most of us do not tend
>to get married young over here and people are often together several
>years first. We were together while still at University and have been
>getting our careers sorted before getting married.
>
>At Sun, 27 Jul 2008, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>Are you in the US? If you've been with someone so long, why wait to get
>>married?
>>
>>Lots of people get married within 6 months.
>>
>>At Sat, 26 Jul 2008, Cassie wrote:
>>>
>>>Hi All
>>>
>>>I have other posts on here so some of you will know some details of my
>>>endo. I am 25 had a major surgery last year to remove extensive stage
>>>IV endo from almost everywhere (including my diaphragm) which included a
>>>5 inch bowel resection. I recovered really well from the operation and
>>>have had relief but would not say things are perfect. I still
>>>experience variable symptoms.
>>>
>>>At this stage there has been no endo develop on my tubes and only one
>>>bit on my right ovary that my surgeon easily excised. So no major
>>>reproductive damage. I was fitted when a Mirena IUCD coil during
>>>surgery to give me the best chance of supressing the endometriosis
>>>growth to preserve fertility while also providing contraception.
>>>
>>>However I am really scared that the longer i wait to have children the
>>>more I am compromising my chances. I have read so many horror stories
>>>how when people have decided to get pregnant it has taken years.
>>>
>>>My partner and i have been together nearly 5 years and are looking to
>>>get engaged soon and married within 2 years. So ideally we both want
>>>this to happen before we have children. We both want children and
>>>preferably our own but are open to other options if it is not a
>>>possibility. We are in good jobs but have a big mortgage and would like
>>>to be a little more setup before starting a family and we are young. But
>>>is there ever a right time?
>>>
>>>I feel ready to be a Mum and it is on my mind a lot. Especially as I
>>>have so many workmates who have gotten pregnent and had babies in the
>>>last couple of years.
>>>
>>>I would appreciate if anyone can give me advice or stories about what
>>>you have experienced and possibly answer the following.
>>>
>>>* Will i need to have another operation before trying to conceive (to
>>>get rid of any new endo)?
>>>* Once having an lap is it true that fertility can be increased in the
>>>few motnhs following?
>>>* Has anyone found it easy to get pregnant?
>>>* Should I get on with it rather than risking my chances?
>>>
>>>Any advise greatly apprecaited!
>>>
>>>Thanks for taking the time to read.
>>>
>>>I hope you are all full of energy today!
>>>
>>>Thanks
>>>Cassie
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