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Re: balance
From: Eve (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed May 28 20:50:40 2008
Jen, Your response has truly touched my heart. It is so good to hear
from someone who is going through the exact situation I have concerns
about. Thank you for your kindness and willingness to share your life.
Your response has given me hope for the life I've dreamed of.
Thank you again!
Eve
At Wed, 28 May 2008, JenH wrote:
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>Eve,
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>I also have endo, two children and thinking of TTC. First, don't let
>anyone pressure you to have children before you're ready. Having a
>child to (attempt to) cure a disease is a bad idea.
>
>Pregnancy hormones helped my endo, and so did nursing hormones. As long
>as I was nursing frequently enough to stop my cycle, I was pain free.
>If/when the next child comes along, I plan to nurse for at least 18
>months in hopes of holding off the pain as long as possible.
>
>There are certainly days when it is hard to care for my children. Some
>days I only get off the couch long enough to fix meals and change
>diapers. On those days, we do a lot of reading (sitting next to me, not
>on my lap), watching videos, blowing bubbles, coloring, etc. There are
>days when I feel like a horrible mother because I can't do what I would
>like to do with them.
>
>But I wouldn't trade them for the world. I try to do as much as
>possible on the good days to make up for the bad. I long ago gave up on
>anything more than basic housework and cooking. You get through it. And
>it truly is a joy to raise my children.
>
>I'm not sure how bad this disease is going to get or what options I
>might choose in the future, but I won't let it stop me from living life,
>including having children.
>
>Good luck with your decision.
>
>Jen
>
>At Wed, 28 May 2008, Eve wrote:
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>>To whom it may concern:
>>I was diag. with endo in 2004 and in the last year have gotten
>>progressively worse. Of course the doctors are encouraging us to get
>>pregnant soon, but I'm having some major concerns. The pain and fatigue
>>of the disease have obstructed daily life and I've been wondering how I
>>would have the strength to take care of a child. I often think, how
>>could I take care of child when somedays I can barely take care of
>>myself. My husband is in the airforce and so will not be home
>>consistently while he is in and we don't live close to family and won't
>>any time soon.
>>My concern is that we will (somehow) get pregnant, have the baby, and
>>then I will be home alone and find that I can't take care of the baby
>>because I'm in so much pain or fatigue.
>>Any thoughts, suggestions, or stories would be appreciated.
>>Thanks, Eve
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