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Re: trying to conceive
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri May 23 13:33:02 2008
Oh yeah, I know what you mean... Also, isn't is great when you are
staying home from work because recovering from your laporscopy and they
found a bunch of endo... And the ONLY thing on TV seems to be baby
related themes on Discovery Health or TLC. I know I watch those
channels a lot and should expect a little bit of that, but come don't
they just show way too many baby programs?!!!
At Thu, 22 May 2008, Nicole wrote:
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>This is a very random comment... but seriously, on this subject of
>infertility. Is it really necessary to have a Mimi Maternity ad running
>on these endo pages?
>
>Sorry. that was a little vent..
>
>At Wed, 21 May 2008, Wen wrote:
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>>Thank you everyone for all of the responses, and helping me to know I am
>>not alone. It's truely amazing how many women are out there, like us,
>>suffering from endo and trouble conceiving, but yet it feels so lonely.
>>I do not know one woman personally who has endo., and most of my family
>>and friends have conceived without a problem. Thanks so much for your
>>support and allowing me a place to share my thoughts and feelings. And,
>>Alex, you are so right when you said no one who hasn't been through it
>>will understand. So let's support each other!!!
>>
>>Good luck to everyone!
>>
>>At Tue, 20 May 2008, anonymous wrote:
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>>>I know the feeling of this frustration. I have not had an "oops" and my
>>>husband and I have not used protection for 3 years. Almost all of my
>>>friends have kids. My sister really upset me when she started to
>>>lecture me on how I must not know my body very well and that if she
>>>wanted to she could get pregnant her next cycle. She claims that I must
>>>be doing something wrong! She is 38 years old and had her first and only
>>>baby at 36, so somehow she is an expert being my older bossy sister and
>>>all (sarcasm). She is totally clueless when it comes to endometriosis
>>>and thinks that I have some type of control of my condition! It really
>>>hurts me and at the same time I want to smack her! So she has this baby
>>>that the family "oohs and aahs" about and I can't help being reminded of
>>>how I can't get pregnant.
>>>
>>>Oh, I just had another lap last week and my aunt e-mailed me to tell me
>>>that she hopes that I'm feeling better (she didn't know what kind of
>>>surgery that I had)... She gave me the news that my cousin is pregnant!
>>>
>>>At Tue, 20 May 2008, Christen99 wrote:
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>>>>Before I was pregnant with my first ds, I could barely look at other
>>>>pregnant ladies without crying. I had many many friends who were
>>>>pregnant at the time, and I didn't go to any of the baby showers. I
>>>>just couldn't bare to be at a shower knowing that I may never have a
>>>>baby. I didn't know anyone who was going through infertility issues, it
>>>>seemed everyone who was having a baby was having an "oops" baby and it
>>>>really hurt. Everyone would look at me and ask if I was going to have a
>>>>baby, or if I was trying etc. and it just really hurt in a way I
>>>>couldn't explain. I did eventually get pregnant, twice actually and I
>>>>have two babies that I was told I would never have. In fact the second
>>>>time around I was told to go play the lottery, and handed a packet on
>>>>finding an egg donor because I had been diagnosed with early menopause
>>>>(at 28!). I cried everytime I left my RE's office, it seemed like there
>>>>was always bad news waiting for me. At my ob/gyn's office it seemed as
>>>>if I was always surrounded by pregnant women and I couldn't stand to
>>>>look at them. I know it was selfish, and childish of me but it just
>>>>hurt so much. A bit less than a year later, dh and I found out quite
>>>>unexpectedly that I was pregnant and it was truly the shock of
>>>>everyone's lives (including my doctor's!). I had an appointment with my
>>>>RE last week because I'm getting ready for my 3rd surgery, and he still
>>>>gushes about how happy he was to be proven wrong in the best way
>>>>possible.
>>>>
>>>>I have my miracles, and I know there are more miracles out there waiting
>>>>to happen so don't ever give up hope.
>>>>
>>>>At Tue, 20 May 2008, Alex wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>I get regular crying attacks - when another colleague goes on maternity
>>>>>leave, when I feel going into PMS-mode again after 14 days of my cycle
>>>>>have passed, when family members give birth ... no one who hasn't been
>>>>>through it will understand.
>>>>>You can only get your support from women who have been through it. The
>>>>>worst is when people say they're "sorry" - that doesn't make me
>>>>>pregnant!
>>>>>I just turned 29, we've been trying for 2 1/2 years, I had a late
>>>>>miscarriage Valentines day 2007, twins. Due to endo & misshapen womb.
>>>>>I've had 7 operations/investigations since they found endo Dec 05.
>>>>>The only advice I can give is to stay strong. It's tough and feels
>>>>>pretty impossible sometimes. Especially when another one has fallen
>>>>>pregnant and you know you didn't get there again this month ... and
>>>>>when the sun's shining outside, yet your heart is in darkness.
>>>>>
>>>>>At Wed, 14 May 2008, Ally wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Hi Ladies,
>>>>>>I'm in the same situation as you! I found that online message boards
>>>>>>have been really helpful for me in dealing with infertility. I would
>>>>>>recommend twoweekwait.com. They have a message board for everyone!
>>>>>>There are also buddy groups you can join for a more personal experience.
>>>>>>Good luck with TTC!
>>>>>>Ally
>>>>>>
>>>>>>At Mon, 12 May 2008, Janelle wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>I am feeling the exact same way. Everyone around me that is pregnant
>>>>>>>got pregnant without really trying or got pregnant their first month
>>>>>>>trying. It is so frustrating. I had my crying fit two weeks ago when I
>>>>>>>got my period after it being two weeks late (and I have not been late in
>>>>>>>10 years, I know that sounds crazy). So of course I think I have cysts
>>>>>>>back because I was late for no other reason. So I understand how you
>>>>>>>feel. If I do not get pregnant this month, I will be going to a
>>>>>>>fertility doctor next month. So I will keep my fingers crossed for both
>>>>>>>of us!!!!!!! Sorry I don't have any advice, but I will keep my hopes up
>>>>>>>for both us.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>At Mon, 12 May 2008, Wen wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>Anyone else having/had trouble conceiving and feeling like everyone
>>>>>>>>around them is pregnant? I am really losing it. Have been crying for 2
>>>>>>>>hours straight after learning today at work that 2 coworkers are
>>>>>>>>pregnant. I miscarried in January, and have been trying again since.
>>>>>>>>Finally, the doctors are going to start a fertility work up, I think. If
>>>>>>>>not I'm finding a new doc! I also feel that my endo. is back.Thanks for
>>>>>>>>letting me vent. Any advice would be really appreciated!!
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