Re: trying to conceive
From: Nicole (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu May 22 12:36:46 2008
This is a very random comment... but seriously, on this subject of
infertility. Is it really necessary to have a Mimi Maternity ad running
on these endo pages?
Sorry. that was a little vent..
At Wed, 21 May 2008, Wen wrote:
>
>Thank you everyone for all of the responses, and helping me to know I am
>not alone. It's truely amazing how many women are out there, like us,
>suffering from endo and trouble conceiving, but yet it feels so lonely.
>I do not know one woman personally who has endo., and most of my family
>and friends have conceived without a problem. Thanks so much for your
>support and allowing me a place to share my thoughts and feelings. And,
>Alex, you are so right when you said no one who hasn't been through it
>will understand. So let's support each other!!!
>
>Good luck to everyone!
>
>At Tue, 20 May 2008, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>I know the feeling of this frustration. I have not had an "oops" and my
>>husband and I have not used protection for 3 years. Almost all of my
>>friends have kids. My sister really upset me when she started to
>>lecture me on how I must not know my body very well and that if she
>>wanted to she could get pregnant her next cycle. She claims that I must
>>be doing something wrong! She is 38 years old and had her first and only
>>baby at 36, so somehow she is an expert being my older bossy sister and
>>all (sarcasm). She is totally clueless when it comes to endometriosis
>>and thinks that I have some type of control of my condition! It really
>>hurts me and at the same time I want to smack her! So she has this baby
>>that the family "oohs and aahs" about and I can't help being reminded of
>>how I can't get pregnant.
>>
>>Oh, I just had another lap last week and my aunt e-mailed me to tell me
>>that she hopes that I'm feeling better (she didn't know what kind of
>>surgery that I had)... She gave me the news that my cousin is pregnant!
>>
>>At Tue, 20 May 2008, Christen99 wrote:
>>>
>>>Before I was pregnant with my first ds, I could barely look at other
>>>pregnant ladies without crying. I had many many friends who were
>>>pregnant at the time, and I didn't go to any of the baby showers. I
>>>just couldn't bare to be at a shower knowing that I may never have a
>>>baby. I didn't know anyone who was going through infertility issues, it
>>>seemed everyone who was having a baby was having an "oops" baby and it
>>>really hurt. Everyone would look at me and ask if I was going to have a
>>>baby, or if I was trying etc. and it just really hurt in a way I
>>>couldn't explain. I did eventually get pregnant, twice actually and I
>>>have two babies that I was told I would never have. In fact the second
>>>time around I was told to go play the lottery, and handed a packet on
>>>finding an egg donor because I had been diagnosed with early menopause
>>>(at 28!). I cried everytime I left my RE's office, it seemed like there
>>>was always bad news waiting for me. At my ob/gyn's office it seemed as
>>>if I was always surrounded by pregnant women and I couldn't stand to
>>>look at them. I know it was selfish, and childish of me but it just
>>>hurt so much. A bit less than a year later, dh and I found out quite
>>>unexpectedly that I was pregnant and it was truly the shock of
>>>everyone's lives (including my doctor's!). I had an appointment with my
>>>RE last week because I'm getting ready for my 3rd surgery, and he still
>>>gushes about how happy he was to be proven wrong in the best way
>>>possible.
>>>
>>>I have my miracles, and I know there are more miracles out there waiting
>>>to happen so don't ever give up hope.
>>>
>>>At Tue, 20 May 2008, Alex wrote:
>>>>
>>>>I get regular crying attacks - when another colleague goes on maternity
>>>>leave, when I feel going into PMS-mode again after 14 days of my cycle
>>>>have passed, when family members give birth ... no one who hasn't been
>>>>through it will understand.
>>>>You can only get your support from women who have been through it. The
>>>>worst is when people say they're "sorry" - that doesn't make me
>>>>pregnant!
>>>>I just turned 29, we've been trying for 2 1/2 years, I had a late
>>>>miscarriage Valentines day 2007, twins. Due to endo & misshapen womb.
>>>>I've had 7 operations/investigations since they found endo Dec 05.
>>>>The only advice I can give is to stay strong. It's tough and feels
>>>>pretty impossible sometimes. Especially when another one has fallen
>>>>pregnant and you know you didn't get there again this month ... and
>>>>when the sun's shining outside, yet your heart is in darkness.
>>>>
>>>>At Wed, 14 May 2008, Ally wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>Hi Ladies,
>>>>>I'm in the same situation as you! I found that online message boards
>>>>>have been really helpful for me in dealing with infertility. I would
>>>>>recommend twoweekwait.com. They have a message board for everyone!
>>>>>There are also buddy groups you can join for a more personal experience.
>>>>>Good luck with TTC!
>>>>>Ally
>>>>>
>>>>>At Mon, 12 May 2008, Janelle wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>I am feeling the exact same way. Everyone around me that is pregnant
>>>>>>got pregnant without really trying or got pregnant their first month
>>>>>>trying. It is so frustrating. I had my crying fit two weeks ago when I
>>>>>>got my period after it being two weeks late (and I have not been late in
>>>>>>10 years, I know that sounds crazy). So of course I think I have cysts
>>>>>>back because I was late for no other reason. So I understand how you
>>>>>>feel. If I do not get pregnant this month, I will be going to a
>>>>>>fertility doctor next month. So I will keep my fingers crossed for both
>>>>>>of us!!!!!!! Sorry I don't have any advice, but I will keep my hopes up
>>>>>>for both us.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>At Mon, 12 May 2008, Wen wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>Anyone else having/had trouble conceiving and feeling like everyone
>>>>>>>around them is pregnant? I am really losing it. Have been crying for 2
>>>>>>>hours straight after learning today at work that 2 coworkers are
>>>>>>>pregnant. I miscarried in January, and have been trying again since.
>>>>>>>Finally, the doctors are going to start a fertility work up, I think. If
>>>>>>>not I'm finding a new doc! I also feel that my endo. is back.Thanks for
>>>>>>>letting me vent. Any advice would be really appreciated!!
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