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Re: Mutiple posts, sorry! question too
From: Michelle (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Dec 25 20:10:21 2007
Thank you for your post. It sounds like you have a good guy. I am
happy for you. It is funny what you say though about men sometimes
being more compassionate then women. So many women have looked at me
like I am weak but the men can't pretend to relate. Actually, though I
have always preferred female Ob/Gyns I have always had problems with
them believing my pain. All my male physicians were willing to discuss
the pain more and did any exams carefully. The women just told me the
stupid exams don't really/shouldn't hurt! My current dr (actually my
insurance changed to student insurance so no more, back to the great
search for a new endo doctor) is a male and he really knows how to treat
endo.
I digress, I am sure I will find someone one day. I just had such
severe pain as a teen I couldn't barely wear jeans some days let alone
think of getting serious with anyone. Therefore, avoidance was my
policy! I suppose I will need to be friends with whomever first. I do
have some guy friends (in relationships), one of whom has a girlfriend
with endo. He is really nice about it all, he would ask me how it is
going and says he wish he could do more for his girlfriend. He feels a
bit helpless when she is in pain. Well, I need to find another one like
this!!! Guys just need to know just having them listen and be there for
us makes such a BIG difference.
Good luck to you, thanks for your reply,
Michelle
At Tue, 25 Dec 2007, Jess wrote:
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>I was 17 and a virgin when I met my current boyfriend. I'm 22 now so
>we've been together for 5 years. I was diagnosed at 18. I always had
>painful periods but nothing like what my endo pain is now. I never
>started getting that pain till after I started having sex and being on
>birth control. I don't know if that has anything to do with it. My
>boyfriend is frustrated at times but compassionate most the time. I
>guess going through this with him made it easier. I find that most guys
>like in his family or his friends are very sympathetic to it and always
>have q's for me and stuff. I think that when you find a guy your really
>interested in then you won;t have to worry about telling him or how he
>will feel. Guys don't know what having a period feels like but I think
>its sometimes because of that they are so caring unlike some women who
>think Endo Sufferers are just weak minded people with cramps. Point
>being don't worry about it. Everyone does things at different time in
>life. Hell I'm only 22 but most my friends are married with kids
>already. The only problem I have is worrying if I try to start a family
>too late that it wont happen. But I can always adopt. Keep your head
>up, things will happen when they are meant to.
>
>--
>Jessica
>Jessicarozez@hotmail.com
>
>At Tue, 25 Dec 2007, Michelle wrote:
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>>Hello everyone,
>>
>>Sorry for posting two of the same earlier. It happened by accident and
>>am not sure how I did it. I hardly ever get to go on this site and then
>>when I do I start reading everything!
>>
>>After writing the earlier message I really am curious.
>>Did any of you not date due to the pain of endo and therefore ended up
>>dating later in life or not at all?
>>
>>If so, I am curious to know. I feel really alone in this area. All my
>>friends are married (and most have kids) or are in serious
>>relationships. I have not even seriously dated anyone and am feeling
>>more awkward about it because of this.
>>
>>Any feedback would be most appreciated!
>>
>>--
>>Michelle
>>
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