Worried about you taking Clomid
From: andrea (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Nov 26 17:15:44 2007
Jill & jsteed,
I am worried about you taking Clomid. Did your doctor tell you that it
is a category x drug and may cause birth defects just like Lupron? How
long does this drug stay in your body after you take it? It sounds like
that drug only helps with ovulation. Do you not ovulate, or is endo
blocking something, preventing you from getting pregnant?
I really want children too, but I do not want to take a drug that
worsens or risks my quality of life either. I don't think I could be a
good mom anyway if I was not feeling well all the time, like I do now.
I feel for you both. I just wish there were safer alternatives for us.
With endo, it seems like we have to risk so much, just to feel a little
relief or be normal. I wish you both the best and hope things turn out
the way you want.
--
Andrea
At Mon, 26 Nov 2007, Tina wrote:
>
>My husband and I tried for several years before I had surgery to remove
>the dno and then finally, got pregnant! I totally know how you are
>feeling and yes, the hormones have a lot to do with the emotions. My
>husband was very understanding *most* of the time. However, he did have
>his days/weeks where he was fed up and felt used as well. We had our
>arguments and disagreements and there were times when I felt that I was
>the only one that wanted a child but, I was wrong. We all deal with the
>stress of infertility (for lack of a better word) differently. He just
>dealt with it in his own way. A couple of deep breaths, a quick
>reminder that we are in this together, and I was good to go. Good luck
>to you!
>
>At Mon, 26 Nov 2007, jillson wrote:
>>
>>I totally know what you mean. My hubby and I tried for a year and I was
>>using those ovulation tests. I work nights so sometimes I would be
>>waiting on the bed when he came home from work just so I could get a
>>deposit before I went to work. Really fun. We had to take break due to
>>multiple surgeries and Lupron. Now we are going to start Clomid and do
>>this all over again. Fortunatly for me my husband is pretty
>>understanding but who knows how long that will last. Hang in there, it
>>is probably from hormones too. Just remember that this is just a small
>>hurdle in your marriage that will be for a great reward. Infertility is
>>tough and if you can get through this you can get through anything. That
>>is what our therapist says. Marriage therapy helped us a lot too.
>>Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
>>
>>Jill
>>
>>At Sun, 25 Nov 2007, jsteed wrote:
>>>
>>>I wanted to first thank you for your kind words. Everyone's experiences
>>>on here, while I can sympathize and wouldn't want anyone to EVER go thru
>>>this, I am also grateful that there is such a wonderful support system
>>>on here. I know that we all talk about our problems and what we are
>>>going thru, but I wanted to talk about it from a mans point of view. If
>>>any of you have ever read my threads, you know that I'm seeing an
>>>infertility doc and he has me on Clomid. I took 100mg for 5 days. Then
>>>you have sex every other day from day 10-20. Our frustration comes in
>>>when you have to have sex on cue. I wonder if it has taken the
>>>enjoyment out of it for anyone else. I feel like I have to remind my
>>>husband that we have to have sex QOD. When I do that, I feel like
>>>okay...c'mon now..i need your stuff to get me pregnant. It is almost
>>>robotic. The spontanaity is gone from it, and it loses its passion.
>>>sigh..I feel like this has caused more arguments than we had before. I
>>>think men dont see the importance of the QOD and they think that 2-3
>>>days in between is okay. lol He wants this just as bad as I do, but I
>>>feel as women, some of us(ME) overthink some things. Like when he puts
>>>it off a day, being me, I think he doesn't care. While if I REALLY stop
>>>and think, this medicine has my hormones going from one extreme to
>>>another. I'm not hateful or rude, but me crying is a biggie. He has
>>>tried to be understanding, but I think he feels used. That he knows I
>>>need him for one thing only, and him being sensitive makes it not so
>>>enjoyable for him. Infertility is not fun, and it is stressful. I just
>>>wonder if you guys have husbands that have had a hard time with this.
>>>Thanks for listening.
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