ENDO Messages for August, 2007: Re: Do I tell Him?

Re: Do I tell Him?

From: D (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Aug 30 19:27:37 2007

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Well, I guess look at it this way - if he proposed to you and you accepted and found out later he has a disease that may interfere with his fertility (and possibly his ability to do a lot of things) and he kept it from you, how would you feel?

It sounds like your surgery didn't work very well - endo is a progressive disease, so I wouldn't expect to be able to hide it forever, but you might be able to get significant relief with a doctor who has the skills to thoroughly remove whatever endo/adhesions were left behind. There are only a handful of really good excision specialists, but they get very good results with low recurrence rates. Reading through this forum is a good way to learn more, there are also some helpful links at the bottom of this post.

I hope you'll tell your boyfriend what's going on. Endo can effect our lives on every level, and if you are going to marry him I think he deserves the chance to help you and be a part of all of your life!

I can tell you with absolute certainty that there are guys out there who will completely accept and support you and your endo - my boyfriend and I got together at the same time my endo was flaring up and becoming a constant, chronic problem. He's been with me every inch of the way. I was single for years before I got together with him, I thought I'd never find anyone even before I got sick. But love isn't about whether you have a disease or not!

At Thu, 30 Aug 2007, anonymous wrote: >
>Do I tell my boyfriend I have a disease. He knows of my pain as bad
>cramps and a "time out week". I know my chances are practically non
>existant as far as pregnancy. I have had the surgery and the photos of
>my uterus looks like lung cancer. I dont want to be dramatic but my
>hormones are so out of wack. My best friend is pregnant. My boyfriend
>is going away on deployment and I have a feeling he is trying to knock
>me up before he leaves. I know he is saving for a ring to engage. Do I
>tell him now before he gets on one knee? Selfishly I want to keep it a
>secret.....afraid of never being loved by anyone again:[
>Can I hide it forever I wonder sometimes.?.

-- Find an endo specialist in the ERC's EndoDocs group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EndoDocs/

Try an excellent endo support group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/erc/

Info on pain management: http://www.painfoundation.org/

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