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Re: depressed / and lorettaFrom: Loretta (anonymous@obgyn.net)Wed Aug 29 22:01:25 2007
At Wed, 29 Aug 2007, anonymous wrote: > >i didn't follow your words though...it was a lot of 'be cheerful' stuff >that I didn't follow..I don't know what you mean by 'I'll decide what to >post' > >of course, everyone here does...it's kind of weird to say you'll send >something else to someone..i myself wanted to read them...maybe i'll >just e-mail some of my own to people i want to, lol > >At Wed, 29 Aug 2007, Loretta wrote: >> >>At Wed, 29 Aug 2007, Deirdre wrote: >>> >>>the problem with endo is that although it isn't deadly like aids or >>>cancer, it can make you feel like you want to die >>> >>>and it doesn't have a high profile where people understand it >>> >>>but once you have the diagnosis, it's best to read info from the right >>>doctors >>> >>>loretta, if you want to post those tips on this site, i think it would >>>helpful! at least some of them >>> >>>At Wed, 29 Aug 2007, Loretta wrote: >>>> >>>>At Tue, 28 Aug 2007, anonymous wrote: >>>>> >>>>>I have endo and its been about 5 moths since I found out, I cant get >>>>>over the shock of it and this sign comes into my head " I HAVE A >>>>>DISEASE" I want to go back to the way I was before this. Its probably >>>>>all in my head. I am better since my surgery physically but mentally it >>>>>has taken its toll on me. I dont know what to do....I feel alone here, >>>>>there is no support group where I live I know noone with this disease. >>>>>How do you get the sign out of your head? How do you go through a day >>>>>without thinking about it? Please help. >>>> >>>>-- >>>>Hi Anonymous >>>> >>>>This is Loretta, I couldn’t help but to post to yours post, I looked over what I had written and it is so >>>> long that I cut out the middle and mailed the rest to the address above, I hope it gets to you. I just don’t >>>>want to be taking up so much space here, when what’s left is still too long. B/c of the length of what I did >>>>leave, I won’t go through my introduction, if you want further info on me just type Loretta in the search box. >>>> >>>>I am compelled to offer you that it is a shock to learn we have something wrong with us, no one looks for, wants or is >>>>happy to find out they have an illness. Sometimes it is a relief of sorts to get a diagnosis if we have been unwell and >>>> looking for the reasons why, but when we get that diagnosis, what do we do with it then? >>>> >>>>One thing we have to do is assess the seriousness of what we are facing, is it contagious, life threatening, or is it >>>>controllable, curable or treatable? >>>>This may sound silly but after the shock and anger wore off I used it as an opportunity to totally change my life, but >>>> in a good way. I took control of my health by changing my diet to the best endo friendly one I could, I started working >>>> on positive thinking and surrounding myself with only those things that reflected good health, good food, positive people, >>>> humor, I worked towards removing all the negative influences I was in control to remove, those I couldn’t I found other ways >>>>of looking at them. ‘When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change’….that has been my mantra since >>>> I became inoperable. >>>>Negativity, fear , worry…all these create energy, bad energy creates stress-creates ill health, just look at the rates of stress >>>>related illness’s and you know that energy totally effects ones health both positive and negative. >>>> >>>>In the beginning we sometimes feel anger, hostility, or irritability, doubt, depression, frustration, fear, guilt, shock, impatience, >>>> these emotions are normal once we are told something such as a chronic illness invades our life, especially if can possibly change our >>>>quality of life. These emotions can trigger feelings of helplessness and in turn, makes you feel you have no control which is a very >>>> stressful state, but you can have allot of control, you are not totally powerless. >>>>Certain things come up in life that are completely unplanned, no one is promised perfect health, or financial freedom, good kids…or a >>>>house with a white picket fence…sometimes we are dealt something unexpected, it may not be fair, but there it is and we can’t dwell on >>>>it or we feed it. The more we feed into it, the larger the issue grows. It doesn’t have to be a tragedy; it can be as I said a place >>>>where a new way of life can begin. First and foremost you have to put it into perspective, thank God, it isn’t end stage cancer, >>>>it isn’t AIDS, it isn’t a stroke where we have lost total use of some body part or our minds, it’s Endo,thats bad enough but it isn't >>>>terminal or utterly hopeless, painful? Yes, forever? with the right treatments probably not, there are things we CAN still do. >>>>Please understand I am not under estimating or downplaying the effects endo can have, believe me, I am ‘disabled’(for lack of a better word), >>>>my story is one long one, my stage/case/locations severe, I fully know the seriousness that it can be,all I am saying is it isn't hopeless. >>>> >>>>You just took the first and most important step by joining a supportive group and reaching out for friendships, information, support so you >>>>can educate yourself on not only how others are coping but new advances being made, new alternative therapies, possible medications……and so >>>> much more, so that first step has now been taken, time to raise the other foot to take the next steps. >>>> >>>>Read all the links provided to you, take what is applicable to you, and bookmark the rest, you never know when that may be of use to you later. >>>> Bring things up with your Dr, if your Dr isn’t one who is totally understanding or at least willing to listen to you, the first stages are the >>>>best time to find the best Dr you can relate to, I think this is THE most important step you can take. If you can’t shut off the skipping player >>>>in your mind that keeps focusing on the negatives, learn to access your mind and spirit by learning meditation, Reiki, Qui Gong….try energy healing >>>>or EFT, if these groups are not quite enough than search for a qualified psychologist to talk to, mine really helped me. PLEASE though, be VERY WARY >>>>of accepting ANY anti depressants at this stage, learning you have an illness naturally comes with ALL and more of the emotions I listed above, NO PILL >>>>will change that, only time and understanding will, anti depressants can open a whole new stadium of problems, unless this leads to a severe clinical/clinical >>>>depressions. Please first try all the above and give yourself time to work through it. >>>> >>>>I have mailed you the rest of this letter that offers some tips, I hope you get it, and I hope it helps at least some or provides you with some ideas to think >>>>about. Your in good hands, you can also write me ANYTIME. >>>>All the best, >>>>Loretta >>>>EndoLights* >>>> >>-- >>Deirdre >> >>I think you are doing a fine enough job posting those links, I will continue to offer >> some other points of view and alternatives. >>I think with my time and my history I have a pretty sound idea of the in's, out's, up's >>and downs of every aspect of this disease, there's you and other women who can >>use their posts to fill whomever in on the other things there is to know. >> >>I feel just fine offering this, I will decide on my posts. >>It's just as valid information for those who may not know. >> Thanx for the advise though:) >> Loretta >>
-- The post was too long, I was being considerate. Enough said.
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