ENDO Messages for May, 2007: Re: What to do

Re: What to do

From: M (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue May 29 21:42:25 2007

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Well this a tuff situation. I would agree with what someone else said to maybe look at how your marriage is overall. All the other issues. I don't know if your a spiritual person, but I would pray for clarity in this situation. Maybe he will have a change of heart. I wouldn't have a hysterectomy if its not what you want. Its your body and your decision. I wish I could help more. Its a tough decision with a lot of factors to consider. I ll keep you in my prayers and I wish you the best. Melissa At Tue, 29 May 2007, anonymous wrote: >
>Don't feel like you are alone. If you look outside this particular
>issue-do you and your husband have a good marriage? If you guys are
>working through other issues as well a hysterectomy is definitely not a
>good idea-this is why when you have a hyst-your hormones are going to
>change dramatically, not to mention you (because you want children) are
>going to feel a sense of loss-not only physically, but emotionally
>because you'll feel like you were jipped. If you decide to do a hyst
>because of your husband-you will resent (sp?) him. So if your marriage
>is otherwise very strong, and he is supportive and comforting to you,
>and you can set aside your need for a child (it is natural for a woman
>to want children)-than maybe consider it more seriously. You need to
>weigh your options heavily before making this decision. I hope this
>helps-it just seems like there may be more going on in your marriage
>than just the child factor-and if there is-it might be worth
>re-evaluating your marriage in general. There is a difference between a
>woman who can not have children because they medically can not and a
>woman who can't have children because her partner doesn't want to be
>burdened. You may choose to leave your husband and move on to be with
>someone who does want children and find out you can't. (Not that it is
>impossible, but for some women with endo-they are not fortunate enough
>to have kids). I know-sorry for this being so long-I just do not want
>you to feel like you are without support. If your husband won't give it
>to you-you can at least find a few kind words here. Good Luck.
>
>April
>
>At Tue, 29 May 2007, Confused wrote:
>>
>>Yes I have had Laparoscopy. My husband wants me to have a
>>hystorectomy...I'm only 30 years old. He said he has his future planned
>>out and it doesn't involve children. He doens't even have contact with
>>the children he has. I don't know...my doctor told me I shouldn't but
>>then my husband told him that we have contact with his children so my
>>doctor said we could do it. I don't want to, and every time we talk
>>about it, it turns into a fight. He's adopted and doesn't want to help
>>another child. I don't know, maybe i'm in the wrong forum talking about
>>this but I have no one else to talk too.
>>
>>At Tue, 29 May 2007, anonymous wrote:
>>>
>>>Have you had a laparoscopy? If you have not, you may want to consider
>>>it, I know from experience that having the endo removed can increase
>>>your chances to conceive. I conceived my 2nd child after having stage 3
>>>endo & having it removed. I did go through 6 months of Lupron
>>>injections as well which I am not sure if that helped conceive or not,
>>>but that was my experience-6 months after finishing my Lupron and
>>>regulating my cycles with the birth control patch, I conceived-3 weeks
>>>after ending my birth control. If you want children of your own, but
>>>your husband doesn't, that is another issue that needs to be worked out
>>>between the two of you, but if you both do want to have a child-it could
>>>be possible (you should discuss it with your OBGYN). Good Luck with
>>>everything.
>>>
>>>April
>>>
>>>At Tue, 29 May 2007, Confused wrote:
>>>>
>>>>This is my second marriage, I found out about 1 year ago that I had
>>>>endro. I had the DNC and have been off birthcontrol for over 7 years.
>>>>Still never to get pregnant. My husband today, finally told me that he
>>>>did not ever want children after 2 years of marriage. I am so
>>>>confused...I want children but don't know what to do. Do i leave my
>>>>husband and adopt or do I live with this and end up resenting my husband
>>>>down the road. He already has 2 children so when we got married, he
>>>>never said he didn't want children. It was always, not right now. I
>>>>need advice...I'm so confused.
>>>>
>>>>Thank you

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