ENDO Messages for February, 2007: Re: IVF and endometriosis

Re: IVF and endometriosis

From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Feb 13 02:16:29 2007

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At Mon, 12 Feb 2007, Elisa wrote: >
>Hi Annon~
>
>I know this is a very tough topic to approach. It is a confusing
>crossroad in your journey to say the least. When I was in your position
>I felt the time came to keep my system shut down with consecutive
>B-control (as I already had 9 months of Synarel and excellent dissection
>of Endo) until we could truly decide. Going through IVF is something
>that you have to be ready emotionally and physically to go through. As
>you know with Endo it's about discovery, learning, coping and finding so
>many answers. With IVF you have that as well as the standard procedures
>which with Endo can hurt. Now you may be at a place where things have
>settled down internally and it might not be so bad. That's a hard call
>because we all are so different. It may work the first time or two for
>you both.
>
>We went as far as having the tubes checked, the hubby checked of course,
>clomid and then $$$ started to seem like a big decision maker on
>adoption or natural. We chose adoption for two reasons. Our financial
>situation couldn't afford the risks associated with something that my
>body might treat as an "invader". That was just how my body reacted. I
>had two pregnancies and got to 3 months and then miscarried. That was
>just my body. Each of us is different. With adoption the laws are
>forever changing too with age and believe it or not if you are on
>anti-depressants etc. that can hamper your ability to adopt. How sad
>huh? We are on this medicines because we battle a disease with high pain
>and depression can set in and this can also be used successfully in some
>to treat nerve pain.
>
>We decided to take advantage of my healthy period in my life and with
>the help of many Dr.'s to write the Chinese Government explaining that
>endo wasn't going to kill me we finally were able to adopt our daughter
>in 2003. We started our process in 2000. It took that long to get
>through all the paperwork and battle this misunderstandings with this
>disease. At that time the average waiting period (I can only speak for
>China) was 14 months from the time your paperwork was submitted. It
>also costs about $20,000 and they have a tax credit of $10,000 right now
>that helped a lot. With IVF being so expensive per time we could have
>easily used up that money in 2 tries.
>
>I offer all these avenues out to you because if you choose adoption or
>IVF either way it's a crucial time to move forward with a plan. This
>year the Chinese government put heavier restrictions especially with the
>age, weight, and anti-depressant issues. They are almost 2 years out on
>their waiting and are cutting off on old regulations in May 2007. (I
>won't even go there :) With adoption (again I am only sharing both sides
>to relieve some of the pressures - I hope you can see that) you don't
>need all your money upfront to start the process. We love our daughter
>just like our own. I look back now and see that we were blessed to get
>her at 11 months in our arms because I don't think I could have carried
>one (though I still desire that for the rest of my life) internally and
>get up in the wee hours on those early morning feedings etc. All these
>are hard choices and only guageable by how you feel and your hubby. My
>husband and my father in law actually made the trip because I could not
>afford to let my autoimmune disease with endo get a disease in a foreign
>country. My father-in-law does business over there all the time so
>traveling home with his actual grandaughter and his son was a very
>rewarding experience for them both. Plus they were spoiled by all the
>women (as there were 10 couples in the travel group) who helped out and
>we all are still very close today for our daughters. Sometimes when we
>make a plan even though our hearts and heads are confused God will
>always lead us the right way.
>
>I purchased an adoption journal which helped me work through writing
>this baby I never carried and saying goodbye to my old body and desires,
>feelings, anger, sadness etc and start crossing over to welcoming this
>new baby that I knew nothing about and had no name, face or anything.
>Now my daughter will have that for the rest of her life to see that the
>choices we made where the best we could do with what we were given.
>
>Sorry so long, I hope this will help you some in your walk. I am always
>here for you if you need it.
>
>Thinking of you...
>
>--
>Elisa

Hi Elisa, I just want to say thank you for the time writing to my problem. Your kind words have made me think more what is more important. Thanks again Rebecca

>
>At Mon, 12 Feb 2007, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>I was diagnosed with stage IV endometriosis 6 months ago after having an
>>endometriosis cyst removed. I was then put on zoladex for 6 months.
>>This has shut down my ovaries to give them time to recover. There has
>>been an improvement but the menopause has not been nice! Now I am on the
>>end of my treatment and I have this question `is is worth going through
>>IVF?`. My doctor has recommended this because my tubes are blocked as
>>well. I have read all about the negative points but I also worry about
>>my own health as well as a baby. So If anyone has gone through IVF
>>please give me some advice. Also living in Perth, Australia there is no
>>support group!! I feel I havent come to terms having this disease and
>>wondering whether to have a baby is too much to think about.
>

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