Re: ENDO/Intimacy
From: har (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Jan 30 23:34:29 2007
I had a lot of pain often with deep penetration as well. It was like
someone was hitting me with a knife. I used to anticipate it and that
made matters worse because my muscles did not relax and I ended up with
burning pain everywhere. I did not want the intimacy to stop because we
had just gotten married last year.
I had an excision lap (my first one) in November. Doctor showed me what
had been causing my pain on deep penetration afterwards. Since the
excision, I have not had that much pain at all. I still was not
relaxing after the surgery expecting pain so ended up with burning pain
from being too uptight -- doing things slowly and lubricant, helped me
relax and eliminate the pain. For the first time in my life, I know
what real intimacy means!
Before the surgery, we basically tried positions which did not hurt me
as bad and tried to take things slower.
Best of luck.
At Thu, 25 Jan 2007, Alyson wrote:
>
>Tamara,
>My husband and I had to try to figure out what positions caused the most
>pain and which didn't seem to cause as much. We were able to kind of
>narrow things down so that it was much less painful when we were
>intimate. For me it really had alot to do with depth of penetration. I
>can't say that I didn't still hurt afterward, but it was much more
>tolerable. I think also making sure to use plenty of lubricant helped.
>I am sure that by this point you anticipate this as something that is
>going to cause you pain, which probably adds nervous tension...which can
>aggravate the pain. Maybe try to stay relaxed by engaging in long
>foreplay and take things slow.
>Alyson
>
>At Wed, 24 Jan 2007, Tamara wrote:
>>
>>I was diagosed with endo in 2001 but the doctors says that with the
>>history of severe pain and crazy cycles that I have probably had is back
>>as far as 13. I was put on BCP at 14 and then finally got of them when
>>I was 23 but they just didn't help. I have had two laps and was blessed
>>to have one child so far. However, the doctors tell me the pain during
>>intimacy and during my cycles should lessen after each surgery and birth
>>but it hasn't for me. I am in a lot of pain. Intimacy is like taking a
>>knife and stabbing myself over and over again. Then for serveral days
>>afterward and am I so much discomfort. It hurts to walk, sit ect. Does
>>anyone have anything that has helped them?
>>
>>Thanks,
>>Tamara
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