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Re: Endometriosis pain & how to deal with your husband that doesn't understand
From: ada (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Aug 1 12:47:26 2006
Lisa, I hope that you are feeling less pain. I too am worried about you
and what you described about your husband. I encourage you to seek
counseling (if money is an issue as it usually is) there are many places
that offer counseling on a sliding scale fee. If he is not willing to
go with you PLEASE go by yourself. It is not ok what has been happening
to you, even if it is your husband. You need support in your life and
you deserve it. Good luck. I will be thinking of you. Ada
At Sun, 30 Jul 2006, Jenny wrote:
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>Lisa, you do know that sadly, a hysterectomy is no cure for
>endometriosis. There is no known cure for endometriosis. You
>definately need something to help you with your pain though. I hope
>Lupron helps.
>
>To be honest, I feel pretty upset for you about the thing you said about
>your husband having sex with you while you are asleep and how you are in
>pain when he does have sex with you. I would STRONGLYSTORNGLY suggest
>that you two go to counseling. I'm sure that won't sound good to him,
>because he knows what he's doing is wrong. Please do go with or without
>him, because that is sad. You don't deserve that.
>
>Good luck. ~Jenny
>
>At Wed, 26 Jul 2006, Li wrote:
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>>Hi, my name is Lisa. I am a 25 year old woman with 3 children & have
>>been dealing with endo for 5 years now. I have had a total of 3
>>laparoscopies & now the doc has decided to try me on the Lupron. I have
>>not had my first treatment yet, but am hoping it works. I am looking
>>for other women who deal with this to talk with. My husband says he
>>understands, but it doesn't seem that way. Even though he know that it
>>is painfull when we make love, he still forces himself on me to do it or
>>waits until I am asleep then does it to where I wake up thinking I am
>>being raped or something, by the time we are done I am in tears. Then I
>>always here "baby I am sorry, it won't happen again", I have been
>>hearing that for 5 years now. Personally I think it may ruin our
>>marriage. I have tried to get him to go on different websites for
>>husbands/boyfriends that are going through the same thing, & he never
>>does. I want him to understand how much pain I am in. Not just during
>>sex, it is all the time. My lower to mid back constantly hurts, by left
>>side always feels like there is a knife just twisting over & over, my
>>periods are terrible, very heavy & painful, there are times that I feel
>>like my uterus is just going to fall out. I have been on pain killers
>>for almost a year now, (which I hate having to take)but it is the only
>>thing right now that gives me a little relief. My doctor says I am too
>>young to have a hysterectomy, which is the only way to really get rid of
>>this crap, but to me I have 3 kids, don't want anymore, my husband has
>>had a vysectomy,so I just don't understand why I have to put up with
>>this for another 3 years or so. I am really just looking for someone
>>who understands what I am going through to talk to. I hate not being
>>able to play with my kids, being on the couch all the time, having to
>>call in to work because I can not get out of bed at times. If anyone is
>>out there & would like to be an ear for me or vice versa please email me
>>or respond to this posting.
>>
>>--
>>Lisa - Painfull in Kansas City
>>
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Ada
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