Re: This is a 'VERY' personal question
From: Angie (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun Mar 19 13:41:54 2006
JoCee,
You are the second person today to ask a sex related question and
thought it might be too "embarrassing" to post or that you may offend
someone. First off, please do not apologize for questions you have. I
don't think there is anyone on this forum (or very few) who would be
embarrassed by these questions. We suffer with so many problems related
to our Endo I don't think anything would surprise us.
As for sperm causing you pain, I've never put two and two together in
that sense. I get pain all the time with sex, the worst is at orgasim
and with real deep penetration. I never even thought about sperm
causing me pain. I do know that I get pain without sperm being present
because there have been many times I couldn't finish the act and had to
stop because I was hurting too bad. Maybe someone else will be able to
give you better answers.
And to any other lady out there with "EMBARRASSING" questions...don't
worry about it. We've been through the wringer with this awful thing
known as Endo and you have every right to ask your questions and if
anyone knows the answer or has advice I'm sure you'll get it.
Good luck JoCee, I'll be watching this post to see what other women have
to say.
At Sun, 19 Mar 2006, JoCee27 wrote:
>
>This question is very personal and very private, but I feel that it's
>important to me to receive answers concerning its subject because I do
>plan to address these issues with my next OB/GYN; yes I am changing
>doctors. If you are offended by what I'm asking, please accept my
>apology beforehand and just skip answering my post. Thanks. -JoCee
>
>The problem is very hard to decipher because I have endo and ovarian
>cysts both; so I don't know which one is being aggravated after sex. The
>thing is, I know that there are women on this website with just endo and
>there are women on this website with cysts and endo just like me, so I'm
>sure I can figure out what is going on by your answers.
>
>The question I want to ask of both types of women is when you have sex
>with your husband/boyfriend and the sperm is released inside of you, do
>you feel pain for a couple of days after? The reason I ask this is
>because when my husband and I do have sex and this happens, I will be in
>excruciating pain for 3-4 days. My pelvic area just aches and throbs;
>walking or moving around has to be done carefully or it feels like
>something is jabbing at my insides.
>
>My husband is a very understanding person and very supportive; I wish
>the world over could have one like mine. He doesn't say a word if I ask
>him to wear a condom or to withdraw before releasing sperm. There are
>times I feel guilty about asking him to withdraw because it's not fair
>to him not to be able to have complete intimacy with me. I've told him
>about my feelings and that I feel like I am short-changing him as far as
>sex goes, but he just tells me if it causes me to hurt like that, that
>he has no problem with withdrawing and that he'd do what was comfortable
>and right for me.
>
>The thing is, I've read about "intercourse being painful" concerning
>endo and ovarian cysts, but I've not found anything about women saying
>that if their partner releases sperm during intercourse that they find
>themselves to be in excruciating pain for a few days afterwards.
>
>I know this is a private subject and there may be a few "blushing
>ladies" on the website and I respect that. If you feel more comfortable
>e-mailing your answer in private, my e-mail is ford@energyunited.net or
>you can just reply as ANONYMOUS on this forum. Thanks!
>
>JoCee
>
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