ENDO Messages for February, 2006: Re: how to tell the new boyfriend.

Re: how to tell the new boyfriend.

From: Alyson (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Feb 28 08:23:16 2006

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Staci, I think Sudsy's idea of printing up some info for him to read is great. There is a web site that I love b/c it is really comprehensive. Here's the link: http://www.morehead.org/wellconnected/000074.htm I think its about 30+ pages... As for talking to him about everything, I think it may get harder the longer you wait. It is really easy to get yourself worked up expecting a scary conversation to the point that you create more anxiety for yourself than may be necessary. I don't think it is ever too soon to talk about the issue of children if you are serious with someone. You both deserve the opportunity to work that out before it becomes an issue later. Give him the information to read and try to answer his questions as best as you can. Just let him know that you love him and that there is no way for you to know whether or not your fertility will be an issue in the future, but that it is a possibility that you want him to be aware of. Good luck, Alyson

At Tue, 28 Feb 2006, Staci wrote: >
>I have been seeing someone for over 4 months now, very seriously. My
>pervious boyfriend new all about my endo, but I have been dealing with
>it on my own for the last 3 years. How do you explain to someone new
>what this is? I have only told him that I am “not normal”, that I have
>been on the pill since 7th grade because of endometriosis. When he asks
>what that means I don’t really know what to say besides I am “f___ed
>up”, he knows that I don’t have normal periods, that I am in pain, that
>I have had abnormal paps and many drs visits- but I am mostly afraid to
>tell him about the threat to my fertility that this disease causes. How
>do you tell someone that you might want to marry that you are pretty
>sure that you cant have his kids! Is it too soon to bring up these kinds
>of things? I feel like I have a huge secret that I need to tell him but
>I am afraid that its too soon. Any advise? (I am 23 by the way, he is
>28.)
>
>(PS, the last time I visited this forum was in 2001)
>
>-Staci

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