Re: Family Pain Management....ANGIE
From: JoCee27 (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Feb 27 21:31:48 2006
TO ANGIE
He normally drops them off at his mother's when I'm working; he doesn't
work because he has Chron's disease. By the time I get home from work
he's gone and she asks me to take them home with me; she lives in front
of us. After dealing with them for the 8 hours I've been at work she
doesn't want to deal with them even longer by keeping them while I lie
down for a while when I first get home. The work I do is home health
which requires driving around from one client's home to another and
completing assessments and checking to see if they need anything so it's
not strenuous activity; but on days when I'm hurting... just walking to
and from the car can be a real killer. Sometimes my clients want to
worry with me rather than let me worry with them about what they are
going through.
So many people tell me that I am pushing myself too hard by working
right now when my endo is at its worst; but what can I do other than
keep on keeping on? :) I think my husband is just a busybody and before
he'll calm down and quit having his moments of adult add...lol...I'll
have to be hospitalized. I love him but he can be a pain sometimes.
That's okay though...I'll just wait for him to fall asleep and slip a
little Tabasco sauce on his tongue while he's snoring and give him
something to think about. LOL!!! :)
At Mon, 27 Feb 2006, Angie wrote:
>
>JoCee,
>
>With the day that I have had I might not be the best to give you any
>kind of advice so take it with a grain of salt.
>
>My fiance and I have our problems with my Endo sometimes but when I am
>going through severe pain he is my angel. He comes upstairs when I want
>him (we use baby monitors lol) and he'll do anything for me that he
>thinks may help me. He brings my drinks if I want them, he brings my
>meds to me, he holds my hand, he'll rub my tummy...anything I want, even
>leave me alone when I tell him to get out. He'll do absolutely
>anything.
>
>I know some men just are not like that. I'd think of something that
>cause men a tremndous amount of pain (like passing a kidney stone...real
>painful for men) and tell him that the pain you have can sometimes be
>worse than the that. And I believe that is one of the most painful
>things for men. Tell him that you need those days to yourself and he
>needs to be there. And if he wants to take a three hour trip to the
>store, take the kids. You just can not be "mommy" on those days. If he
>doesn't start to help out on these days then i would check into a motel
>for the day/night. Force him to take control of the children when you
>can not. Or go to your parents or something. Rest somewhere else.
>
>Oh, who takes care of the children when you are at work? If a
>babysitter, have hubby drop them off even though you are home. Just
>some ideas.
>
>Hugs to ladies who need them.
>
>--
>Angie
>
>At Mon, 27 Feb 2006, JoCee wrote:
>>
>>How are most of you dealing with your kids when your endo flares up?
>>Knowing how my pain medication knocks me out or makes me loopy I try not
>>to take anything while I am with my kids and if I do it's half of the
>>pill. My husband acts like my being home is a vacation day instead of a
>>sick day. I end up here alone watching the kids when my reasons for
>>being home is to rest and get through the flare up; but he acts like my
>>being here is a sign for him to hit the pavement.
>>
>>My kids seem to take advantage of the fact that mom doesn't feel well
>>and that mom can't get down the hall fast enough or move about the house
>>keeping an accurate check on things. If I am confined to my bed because
>>I am hurting, I can feel the house rocking, I can hear them fighting, I
>>can hear them arguing, and my little one constantly rummages in things
>>she shouldn't.
>>
>>When my husband returns 4 or 5 hours later rather than what should've
>>been a 30 minute trip to the store, he looks at me and says, "What's
>>wrong with you? Why do you act like you're mad?" Those are the moments
>>in our sweet marriage that I'd like to run him over with the car and
>>laugh like some psychotic nut and back up and do it again and say, "I'm
>>sorry... Is there something wrong, honey? You sound a little upset. I'm
>>sorry... Did you say something, honey?"
>>
>>And asking someone to watch my kids because I am hurting is a joke. I
>>always hear, "Where is your husband at?" or "Where is their father?". To
>>get someone to watch my kids for me for a couple of hours at their house
>>or even just come over and sit here with them so I can take something
>>for pain I'd have to pay them to do it and to bring up how many times
>>I've helped them out when they've had the flu or some other problem is
>>not even worth mentioning.
>>
>>--
>>JoCee
>>
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