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Re: Thanks for the warm Welcome
From: Amanda (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Jan 5 12:05:23 2006
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me...it gives me hope, and
a lot of inspiraton. The fact that you have 5 children with endo is
truly inspiring, and I hope I too will have a big family someday.
It's funny that you say to print off some info for my b/f, because I did
that lastnight.I figure I will leave it for him, and he will most likely
read it when I am not around...it will mean alot to me if he takes the
time to read it.He's not quite as young as me..hes 21, but still has
some growing up to do.
I appreciate your support and understanding so much..and I look up to
you for making the same decision when you were young, as I am making
now. I realize there will be hard times...but the good times will make
up for that...as I'm sure you already know.
thanks again, Amanda
At Thu, 5 Jan 2006, Sudsey wrote:
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>Amanda Comming from a Lady who had her first child at age 18 two months
>before I turned 19 I am hardly one to judge such a choice. I was ready
>for a child then too and you know what no regrets not once for having my
>son as young as I did. I held my head so high when my son was born and
>I was proud. I've heard many talk about financial this and that and the
>funny part is even the most financial sound couples at some point face a
>job loss a income decrease. I had two children before I got married and
>so many in my life said it wont last and we have been through ALOT from
>financial struggles to a son with disorders to bankrupcy and it didn't
>end our marriage it only made us as a couple and a family that much
>stronger an we were determined to make things work and have for as we
>approach our 11 yr anniversary. I currently have 5 children and have
>been a stay at home mom and the insulting people never go away, part of
>life and you just gotta ignore them. I learned it's those insulting
>peoples way of trying to prevent someone else from the same misstakes
>they themselves made and I often think hey look in the mirror instead of
>playing judge and jury on my life. There's alot of regret that comes
>with Endo and the chances of waiting are there for some and not others
>and if you personaly feel ready then follow your heart not the voice of
>anothers opinion b/c in the end it's all about you not their opinions
>anyway. I do understand what you mean about your b/f I have a quiet
>husband just the same. He's the kind who speaks only when spoken to at
>times and keeps opinions and much more to himself. I used to believe
>the silence was worse then if he just bitched all the time but it's part
>of who he is and even though they don't always express themselves
>verbaly they do still hear what you are saying. You just have to be
>open and honest and from there let it go. Print out information and let
>him read it in his own time and let that be known when you give it to
>him I just thought when you feel ready to read the information you will
>have it. I used emails alot to send my husband information. Also if he
>is 19 like yourself it just might take the fabirc of time and maturity.
>The harder life is the more we learn grow and change for it. Not much
>is learned from a day at the amusement park.. If nothing more it
>teaches us patience and tolerance of others.
>I too was the little girl who stuffed that balloon up her shirt and
>never spoke of the career but of the day I would be a mother and have a
>family of my own. I wish I could promise that you won't be judged for a
>choice but I can't. You just have to be secure with your own decisions
>and let the rest go..
>all my best
>Sudsey
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>At Thu, 5 Jan 2006, Amanda wrote:
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>>Ladies, thank you so much for the extremely warm welcome. You made me
>>feel so comfortable in this forum, and opened a little door of hope for
>>me.It's so hard when you think you are alone...
>>As for the boyfriend....getting him to understand is much harder than
>>you think...he doesn't talk much in the first place, so getting him to
>>talk about this with me is an extreme challenge!!Second of all, he's
>>very uncomfortable dealking with any type of sickness...big or small. It
>>will take sometime, but I'm confident that someday he will understand.
>>
>>At the moment, we are not actively trying to conceive, but we are not
>>preventing it. We have been having unprotected sex since March.The
>>topic of children is also another hard subject for him to deal with. But
>>we have established that we both want children, and sooner than later.
>>We are both aware that I may not be able to conceieve due to the endo,
>>and I think we have this unspoken agreemnet that if it happens, we will
>>embrace it with open arms. I know I am young...and I hope none of you
>>will judge me for this. Ever since I was a little girl...when people
>>asked me what I wanted to do when i grew up, I always said "I just want
>>to be a mom"...and thats always been my answer, even today. Having
>>children is the most important thing in my life, so I am not going to
>>take any measures to prevent it...especially with the endo. If this is
>>the time that it should happen...then it will happen.
>>Unfortunately, I'm getting discoureged, and feeling a llittle derperate.
>>I'm so young and it should be so easy for us to conceive....but it's
>>been 9 months...3 more months and we will be considered infertile.That
>>sacres me to death.....
>>
>>I hope none of you will look down on me for the decision I have made in
>>my life, and I hope you can understand!You seem like a great group of
>>ldaies, and i truly appreciate all the support.
>>Amanda
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