ENDO Messages for November, 2005: Re: Painful Intercourse

Re: Painful Intercourse

From: Leigh (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Nov 29 23:29:46 2005

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Hello ladies, I as well as many other's totally understand what you are going through. I can only speak from my experience, so here goes.

I have had painful sex for longer than I have been diagnosed with endo. I thought it was suppose to be like that and it was just how I am. Wrong. Had a Lap 3 1/2 yrs ago and was good for almost 2yrs. For the last 6 months or so the pain has gone to daily. Painful sex happining again. Went through 2 different kinds of BC and 2 shots of lupron. Was suppose to get a 3rd but didn't. I believe adhesions and maybe cysts are the root cause of my pain. I do also have endo but not sure how bad at this time.

I too am lucky to have a supportive man in my life. But like you he is sexually frustrated as well. We have been together for over a year now. For the last 4 months I would drink alittle and take vicodin or Exedrin PM before having sex and some more meds after, cause I would hurt more for 2 days after. So we went from having good sex all the time to maybe once or twice a week. It does play havok on any relationship. He never realized how bad it really does hurt until I couldn't hold back the tears and he saw them. He felt like such Sh*t the next day it made me feel worse.

He is the kind of man that does not want to 'handle it' himself. So to give him the release he needed, keep him at home, and tame the moody b**ch he would turn into- we would trade massages(not naughty ones) so I would get something out of the deal, I would put something sexy on (even though I don't feel that way) to stimulate his visual senses (hopefully get him off quicker) tease the hell out of him and 'handle it' myself. It is a frustrating tease for me as well. But it was what worked for me. This is the only time in my life I have wished to have a small penised 10 minute man who didn't care about my satisfaction. But I don't have that. Good and bad! Damn!

Cuddling and closeness does not have to lead to sex. Even though for some just being close is enough to turn them on. In any kind of relationship their are comprimises. It's a matter of finding out what can work for now until we can be fixed enough to lead normal lives again. I try to help my man once a week weather he needs it or not. Although I'm late and he's been without for 2 1/2 weeks since the crying time.

I know I would love to have good sex with my man. I also know the pain will be there and that makes me not want to touch him at all in that way. I am willing to suffer a little but at this point penetration and even orgasm on my part are out of the question. Hopefully after the Lap that will change long enough to get knocked up. I also will be going to counsling to help with my frustration. Called em today cause I too am tired of feeling like this.

Communication and education are the best tools. Sorry for the book, Just got on a roll. There is always more that could be said. Hope this helps. I wish the help and understanding you need. To pain free days................

At Tue, 29 Nov 2005, Lori wrote: >
>Isn't it great to recieve such a miracle. I have two. I completely
>understand the expected pain due to the thought of having intercourse.
>Have you asked your doctor if theZoloft lowers your sex drive? I have
>struggled with the decision of a hysterectomy for a long time also.
>Don't rush into that decision. Make sure you are really ready in your
>heart and mind. You have to have a peace within you that when you make
>that decision that it is resolved within in you and stick to your
>decision. Know that you have completely thought it through and that you
>have formed a definate decision within yourself. This way if you do
>have a hysterectomy,when all is said and done, you exhausted every
>resource and believed within yourself that this was ultimately the best
>decision you could have made for yourself and stick to that fact. You
>are not any less of a women for having endo. I might suggest some
>counceling for you to talk this through with someone, I am sure it would
>help you alot. We are also glad to be a support for you. Many people
>do not understand what we go through, maybe that makes us feel less
>than, but it does not make us less than. I am glad to hear that you
>have a supportive husband. That is really really great. Let him love
>on you. You probably need his support more than anyone elses. Not that
>others doesn't help, but it might help in your marriage. If you feel
>less than, or are struggleing emotionally let him know.It just might
>help him also. I just posted a response to a sex question tonight, you
>may want to read that. Let us know why you think you need a
>hysterectomy, maybe we can post some information that might be helpful
>for you. Hope you are feeling better soon. Lori L.
>
>At Tue, 29 Nov 2005, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
>>
>>I suffer from endometriosis and I have a real problem with painful
>>intercourse. Actually pain in general. I find it very painful at the
>>time of my period and ovulation. I have got to the point where I do no
>>have any interest in sex. I say I have a low sex drive but I think it
>>may be because of the expected pain. I am on Zoloft for anxiety and I
>>am now facing the decision of a hysterectomy, which I believe is putting
>>me into a mild depression. I have a 9 month old, beautiful son, but it
>>is hard to make the decision not to have another baby. This disease has
>>really changed my life and who I feel I am. I really feel like less
>>then a woman. My son was my miracle which helped, briefly but I am
>>afraid my marriage is falling apart. My husband is supportive to a
>>point and I feel terrible getting mad at him, but I don't know how to
>
>>deal with all the pressure of sex. Any quidance, reading material..etc.
>>would be greatly appreciated.
>>
>>Your partner in suffering.....

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