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Re: Miserable, can you help?
From: Lori (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Nov 29 15:33:20 2005
Tara,
Thanks for your response. It is nice to have someone agree with me. He
is an ass and I am sorry to say that. I love him, but I don't know if
we are in love. That hurts. We used to be so good together, but now,
UHGGGG! ONe thing, I am not a stay at home mom, I actually work 2 jobs
and I am the only one taking care of the kids and household. TOo much
to manage, you are right. I am stressed and I surely know that stress
plays a big part in health. I know that I am not imagining this, I have
stage 4 endo, but I do know that anxiety and stress do control your
health to a certain point. Now, what do I do. How do I control the
stress? I don't know! It just seems like it keeps on piling upu on me
and I am gonna blow. Well, anyways, you truely gave me some words I
wanted to hear. I"m not crazy :) LOL. Also about family helping. Ha
ha , yeah right. I don't have any good friends that live close that i
can rely on. My husband plays a part in that. I don't get to go out
with friends much. One of my sister in-laws in very good to me, but she
is in nursing school and has a 2 year old so she doesn't have much time.
Hubby is home, gotta go!
Hugs~
LOri D.
At Tue, 29 Nov 2005, Tara wrote:
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>Dear Lori,
>
>I know what it's like to be a stay at home mom. I've been one for
>awhile now and it's not easy. Can anyone help you at all, mom? friend?
>neighbor? Your husband sounds like a very controlling person. Have you
>ever read Christiane Northrup's I believe it's the "Wisdom of Menopause"
>someone please correct me if I'm wrong. She talks a lot about
>relationships causing gyne problems. Not saying any of this is in your
>head, no not by all means, but it does make the physical problems worse
>when extra anxiety is involved. I've been fortunate to have minimal
>cramping with the adeno, yet loads of bleeding. Yet when I had the
>Mirena and I was upset my uterus cramped like crazy. I think when we
>are stressed our insides naturally do this, but I was really made aware
>of it with that sucky little device which must have been rubbing against
>all of my adeno. You need some relief. Can you go to stay with a
>relative for awhile who can take care of you? You need to destress for
>awhile so you can regain your health and strength to handle your
>husband. It's no wonder you don't wish to have sex with him he sounds
>like an ass. Sorry, but he really does.
>
>Wishing you lots of warmth and health for the holidays,
>
>--
>Tara
>
>At Tue, 29 Nov 2005, Lori wrote:
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>>Hello,
>>It has been a while since I have written for help. I don't know what is
>>going on with me? I have to make my appt. with my gyn. today. Forgot
>>the # at work so I have to wait til I get home this afternoon. Anyways,
>>I am scared about that. I haven't been to a doctor for my endo in a
>>long time. I also am going to ask her about the adendomyosis that anon.
>>has told me about. Anyways, I got over my period from h_ll. IT was
>>awful. Lots of bleeding, lots of pain. My legs felt like they were
>>numb. It hurt so bad. THen ever since my period I have had lots of
>>pains in my ovaries and my stomach. Having a hard time eating. I mean,
>>I get hungry, but I pay the consequences after I eat. I have sharp pain
>>in my upper right abdomen afterwards. I don't want to have any sexual
>>relations with my husband. He doesn't get it, he never will, lost any
>>hope on that one. I am in constant pain and I am a mom of 2 kids, my
>>daughter is 5 and my son (the wild man) just turned 1 and he is a
>>handful. I just can't keep up and my husband sure likes to sneak in
>>snide remarks about this and that. He said that I need to do better on
>>house work. So I took yesterday off and cleaned the house for 7 hours
>>straight, he barely said a thing and quickly abused it by not picking up
>>after himself and not helping. What is the deal. I am not fricking
>>super women. I hurt, I need help and I just want a little bit of
>>support from the man I married. Apparently that is too much to ask for.
>>(thanks for the raging fit you just allowed me to have) anyways, don't
>>know when this doc. appt will be and i just want some help up to that
>>time and what I should do or say at the doc. I am going to ask her for
>>a full exam, it has been a while. I was due for a pap in April, didn't
>>get it ( I know, dumb me) but I am doing it now. Anyways, any tips for
>>me, I am desperate!
>>Thanks~
>>Hugs~`
>>Lori D.
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