Re: Miserable, can you help?
From: Tara (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Nov 29 12:37:48 2005
Dear Lori,
I know what it's like to be a stay at home mom. I've been one for
awhile now and it's not easy. Can anyone help you at all, mom? friend?
neighbor? Your husband sounds like a very controlling person. Have you
ever read Christiane Northrup's I believe it's the "Wisdom of Menopause"
someone please correct me if I'm wrong. She talks a lot about
relationships causing gyne problems. Not saying any of this is in your
head, no not by all means, but it does make the physical problems worse
when extra anxiety is involved. I've been fortunate to have minimal
cramping with the adeno, yet loads of bleeding. Yet when I had the
Mirena and I was upset my uterus cramped like crazy. I think when we
are stressed our insides naturally do this, but I was really made aware
of it with that sucky little device which must have been rubbing against
all of my adeno. You need some relief. Can you go to stay with a
relative for awhile who can take care of you? You need to destress for
awhile so you can regain your health and strength to handle your
husband. It's no wonder you don't wish to have sex with him he sounds
like an ass. Sorry, but he really does.
Wishing you lots of warmth and health for the holidays,
--
Tara
At Tue, 29 Nov 2005, Lori wrote:
>
>Hello,
>It has been a while since I have written for help. I don't know what is
>going on with me? I have to make my appt. with my gyn. today. Forgot
>the # at work so I have to wait til I get home this afternoon. Anyways,
>I am scared about that. I haven't been to a doctor for my endo in a
>long time. I also am going to ask her about the adendomyosis that anon.
>has told me about. Anyways, I got over my period from h_ll. IT was
>awful. Lots of bleeding, lots of pain. My legs felt like they were
>numb. It hurt so bad. THen ever since my period I have had lots of
>pains in my ovaries and my stomach. Having a hard time eating. I mean,
>I get hungry, but I pay the consequences after I eat. I have sharp pain
>in my upper right abdomen afterwards. I don't want to have any sexual
>relations with my husband. He doesn't get it, he never will, lost any
>hope on that one. I am in constant pain and I am a mom of 2 kids, my
>daughter is 5 and my son (the wild man) just turned 1 and he is a
>handful. I just can't keep up and my husband sure likes to sneak in
>snide remarks about this and that. He said that I need to do better on
>house work. So I took yesterday off and cleaned the house for 7 hours
>straight, he barely said a thing and quickly abused it by not picking up
>after himself and not helping. What is the deal. I am not fricking
>super women. I hurt, I need help and I just want a little bit of
>support from the man I married. Apparently that is too much to ask for.
>(thanks for the raging fit you just allowed me to have) anyways, don't
>know when this doc. appt will be and i just want some help up to that
>time and what I should do or say at the doc. I am going to ask her for
>a full exam, it has been a while. I was due for a pap in April, didn't
>get it ( I know, dumb me) but I am doing it now. Anyways, any tips for
>me, I am desperate!
>Thanks~
>Hugs~`
>Lori D.
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