Re: My X Doc was actually yelling at me! Couldn't believe it.- Lori
From: Leigh (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Oct 31 19:07:14 2005
Hey Lori,
My family and co-workers thought it was funny too : ) I'm not shy about
what's going on with me.
My Doc seemed to not want to know. I had also made a spreadsheet as a
daily record of what has been going on with me. In my thinking, my
doctor would want to see that as a way to help figure out what is going
on. On the bottom of it I had actually made a Legend, explaing all of
the marks, what kind of cramping/intensity/General duration ect. She
didn't even take a look at it! I wasn't trying to be smarter or
something like that. I simply wanted to be thorogh.
When I went in there at first I was admittingly niave. I wanted her to
know formost that I have a clue about what is going on. It is my body,
Right? The last time I allowed myself to be pushed into things
concerning my body didn't work out so well. Lost 3 yrs of my life on
that one.
The look on her face when I lifted my dress and showed her my marks was
pretty funny. I couldn't laugh at the time, but did later! Laughing is
free and healthy. I try to do it as much as I can.
Actually that post on the questions to ask was a great help! I asked her
a few of those questions and didn't like her answers. I like the check
list idea as a quesionair.
Thanks for the help and support. I have learned things from you as
well. Hope you are having a great day!
At Sun, 30 Oct 2005, Lori wrote:
>
>At Sat, 29 Oct 2005, Leigh wrote:
>Ok,so I have to say this...I laughed reading your post. I was not
>laughing at you but for a couple of other reasons. First...I overheard
>a doctor say once that they were so pissed off because of the internet
>and how people think they can diagnose there own disease and know how to
>treat them. Like they are the only smart ones entitled to know and we
>should keep them on a pedistal and worship them. The second thing was
>the marker. I wish I had thought of that!!!! You should have put a
>number next to the line to describe the level of pain 1 through 10. 10
>being the highest. Oh gosh, I hope you find a good doctor. It sound
>like you are a strong person and will get through this. I can just
>picture her yelling at you. The poor woman. Glad you stood up for
>yourself. Kudos to you. I tell my friends if I ever lose my sense of
>humor then i am in trouble. Did you read the post a while back on
>Doctors? It was really good on how to find and interview a new doctor.
>Good luck, let us know how you are doing and please feel free to vent
>any time. Lori L.
>>
>>Hello Ladies,
>>
>>Well I had my 3month check up with my x doc yesterday, since beginning
>>Lupron. I went to that appointment with 2 folders full of the research
>>I have done over the last few months, a spread sheet of my daily
>>problems/symptoms/side effects, alot of pain, and some hope of having a
>>more educated discussion with my doctor. I even went so far as to take
>>a sharpie marker and draw on my body where exactly my pain was and what
>>kind of pain it was by wavy lines or x's.
>>
>>When she came into the room she asked how the Lupron was working out for
>>me. My reply was that I wasn't sure if it was really working for me,
>>and that these headaches I have now are killing me. And I'm still in a
>>great deal of Pelvic Pain.
>>She didn't even let me finish what I was saying.
>
>>At that point she actually got in my face and in a very loud/yelling
>>voice said:
>>"YOU HAVE ENDOMETRIOSIS YOUR OPTIONS ARE LUPRON OR HYST! I DON'T KNOW
>>WHAT YOU WANT ME TO DO FOR YOU!"
>>
>>"LUPRON IS A NEW WONDER DRUG FOR ENDO! THERE ARE NO OTHER CHOICES OUT
>>THERE!"
>>
>>At that point because of my research and feeling she was full of it, I
>>raised my dress to show her my markings and replied:
>>
>>"THE WAVY LINES MEAN CONSTANT CRAMPING 24/7 PAIN, THE X'S MEAN SHARP
>>STABBING CRAMPS AND TENDERNESS. I'M BLOATED MY HEAD IS POUNDING, MAYBE
>>THIS 'WONDER DRUG' JUST ISN'T WORKING FOR ME! I think I made a mistake
>>by starting any kind of drug therepy before having another lap done so
>>we would know for sure what is going on in there. I AM NOT THE NIAVE
>>WOMAN who came in here 8 months ago for help. I do have a greater
>>understanding and would like to discuss it.
>>
>>Then I Went through some of the questions I took with me incase I got
>>flustered when I was there. Glad I did that cause I was definitly
>>flustered. I asked about the # of laps she has done, what form of
>>removal she used/preferred and why. I did not feel comfortable or like
>>many/most of the answers I was given. I'm glad I didn't let her cut me
>>open!
>>
>>At that point I asked her if she could refer me to an endo specialist in
>>the area, That the closest one I found was in Oregon. She actually
>>asked me what an Endo Specialist was. I was a little shocked and said "
>>A Doctor Who Specializes in Endometriosis Treatment" My confidence in
>>this doctor really dropped. I have learned more from this forum and the
>>net than any information given me by her.
>>
>>I guess there are 2 in Western Washington, Seattle and Tacoma. I will
>>find out on Wednesday hopefully which I may see.
>>
>>There was more but this post is long enough, to cut it short I won't be
>>getting another Lupron shot on Tuesday, I'm finishing the add/back (only
>>got a few left) Got a script for pain meds and rushed out the door with
>>the understanding when I left that I would not be back there. I was
>>told in the future until I find another doctor to see my reg doc (I dont
>>have much faith in her either)for pain management.
>>
>>I'm glad I have learned all that I have. I was alot more confident in
>>myself, and not ready to be pushed around or not be heard. I was not
>>rude or angry (on the outside) only direct. I am further frustrated at
>>this point, but glad I stood up for myself. I hope to find a Doc that
>>actually seems to care.
>>
>>To better days and better doc's..............................
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