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Re: Introduction to Jessica
From: Nichelle (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri Oct 28 16:24:39 2005
wow, you've been through a lot and seem to be in good spirits. i
definitely admire that. i'm sorry to hear of your pain. thankfully,
i'm somewhat of an anomaly in that i have rather advanced endometriosis
and grow large cysts yet feel no pain. (however thinking back on it, i
had horrible cramps when i was a teenager and through the first 2 years
at college. i couldn't stand up straight and would miss class but that
just all of a sudden stopped my sophomore year) i know what you mean
regarding your boyfriend. i feel the same. we've been together for a
year and a half and i sometimes think "what if we get married and i
can't have children? will he resent me? will he leave me or cheat?" i
try not to think about that cause i have enough on my plate. on of my
doctors is a fertility specialist. his advice was to start having kids
asap. i did give it some thought but i feel like i'm emotionally ready,
but definitely not financially. i know that my boyfriend is definitely
not ready at this time either. i know that adoption is an option but i
really want to experience childbirth. that may seem selfish, but
nonetheless that's how i feel. i did think about freezing eggs, but i
haven't done much research because i really don't have the finances for
that. i'm still paying for the surgery i had last year. anyway, i know
you are right about the stressing. it is something i am trying hard to
overcome, just not that easy yet. thanks for your encouragement and
hugs. Nichelle
At Fri, 28 Oct 2005, Jessica wrote:
>
>Well you came to the right place. I started coming here shortly after I
>was diagnosed at 17. Since then I have had four surgeries, all laps and
>a D&C; Lupron in Aug of 2004 and am still suffering debilitating joint
>pain, two steriod epidurals to see if they would block the pelvic pain
>and been on every medication for my nervous system. Sometimes I feel
>like a lab rat lol. I know how you feel whn it comes to children. I
>too want kids of my own someday, and its hard to be with my boyfriend of
>three years because I do not want to be the women who can't bare his
>children. I have done a lot of talking to other women about this issue
>and talking to my Dr.s. Many women with endo have conceived. I find
>that more women conceived children when they were not trying. I think
>if you stress out about it things will only get worse. It is also
>suppose to be easier to concieve in your peak time, between 18 ans 25.
>There are great fertility clinics that can help. Do you feel you are
>ready for children now? My Dr. told me that if I were to have children
>this would be the best time. One thing I'm considering is adoption. I
>know biologically they wouldnt be yours but you would be their mother
>and I know you would give them all of your love. Another thing my Dr.
>suggested was getting my eggs frozen and finding a seregeant mother when
>the time is right. I know it is very expensive, but it would give you
>time to take care of yourself and not be rushed into having children
>when you are sick. There are a lot of options out there for women with
>endo. I would really suggest asking you Dr. for a refferal to a
>fertility clinic to see what your options are. I hope things pick up
>for you, try not to stress out about it.
>
>"Hugs"
>Jessica
>
>At Fri, 28 Oct 2005, Nichelle wrote:
>>
>>Hello. This is my 3rd attempt at posting a message. Let me first start
>>by saying i'm glad i stumbled on to this. i have been looking for
>>others who are going through what i'm going through. i am 24years old
>>and found out last year that i had a severe form of endometriosis. i
>>had surgery in march to remove a cantaloupe sized cyst. they ended up
>>having to take my ovary and my appendix also. surgery was followed by 6
>>months of lupron and let me tell you that was not a lot of fun. i hoped
>>that would be the end, but i found out in may this year that i had
>>another large cyst growing on my remaining ovary. the news was
>>completely devastating. i have not had any children and it is my
>>greatest fear to lose the opportunity to have any. i want them more
>>than anything and although others try to say things as consolation, i
>>truly feel like my life would not be complete without them. i have
>>struggled (and still am struggling) with feelings of bitterness,
>>resentment, self pity. this is the hardest thing i've ever had to deal
>>with. this cyst is smaller but still fairly large (the size of a fist).
>>so now i have surgery scheduled for Nov. 22nd. am very scared. just
>>wanted to talk to someone cause none of my friends or family can truly
>>understand what i'm going through.
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