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Re: surgeryFrom: Angela (anonymous@obgyn.net)Tue Oct 25 22:53:47 2005
At Mon, 24 Oct 2005, dawnriser wrote: > >I'm sorry for you're going through Calley. I'm quite a bit older than >you are now but I know I suffered with my endo terribly at your age. It >must be very hurtful when your mom doesn't understand what you're >experiencing and you must feel alone with your pain. > >Dads, though, can be pretty good to have around for surgery. They don't >really understand the kind of pain you have but I'm sure it hurts him to >know that you are in pain and he can't fix it. Lots of times dads and >husbands seem distant but it's really only because they just don't know >what to do or how to help. Maybe this is an opportunity for him to be >there for you and it will bring you closer. > >And as for you mom....does she know what endometriosis is about and it's >effects? Maybe you could show her some websites or pamphlets or have her >read some messages on this board to help her understand the kind of pain >you have to cope with. I think it is especially difficult for women >without endometriosis to understand what we go through. It's hard >because it's a disease you can't see. You look fine and so people think >that there's nothing that wrong with you. Maybe if you sit down with >her and tell her how you're really feeling, educate her a bit and tell >her you need her support it will help. > >I know you're scared of the surgery. I've had 2 and soon will have a >3rd and it is sacry for me even though I'm in my 30s and have a great >husband to help out. But just remember that you're doing it to feel >better and that being proactive about your health is a good thing. When >you're surgery day arrives, just remember to take a few deep breaths and >try to stay positive. > >You're not alone...there are thousands of us out there who suffer and >it's important that you know that even if you can't get your parents to >understand, there are a plenty of us that do. > >Good luck Calley. > >At Sun, 23 Oct 2005, Calley wrote: >> >>My name is Calley. I'm 16 and from upstate New York. I was diagnosed >>with endometriosis when I was 14. I had my diagnostic surgery in June >>before I turned 15. After surgery I was fine up until about 5 months >>ago. I've been to 3 doctors about my endometriosis. One is in my >>hometown, another one in Burlington, VT, and the last was in Syracuse >>NY. Finally getting a doctor to agree to surgery... which is in about >>2 weeks from the present date. I'm posting here because I'm getting >>very anxious and nervous about the surgery. I suppose I'm getting so >>stressed because my dad is the one who is taking me to the surgery... >>because my mom can't... she claims she can't get out of work... which >>may be the case... but it just seems like she doesn't want to be there. >>It just makes me upset. My mom always yells at me whenever I say I >>don't feel well... she tells me I say it because I want to go home and >>I don't want to be out running around with her... she doesn't see that >>if it wasn't a big deal, I wouldn't be having surgery... I just don't >>really have anyone to talk to about it because noone that I'm good >>friends with, knows what I'm dealing with. Thanks for reading this... >>and good luck to all of you who are dealing with Endometriosis. > >-- >May the stars carry your sadness away, >May the flowers fill your heart with beauty, >May hope forever wipe away your tears, >And, above all, may silence make you strong. >-Chief Dan George >
-- Angela M.
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