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Re: adoption - Stephanie
From: Chris (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Sep 29 22:59:10 2005
Hi Stephanie,
I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story too! I also sobbed
when you got to the part about how your friend's dad said, "You were
chosen." I guess if we cannot have a child physically, the right child
can still find his/her way to us, just takes a different route. Thank
you again for sharing your story.
Chris
At Thu, 29 Sep 2005, Stephanie wrote:
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>Good morning all, I just wanted to thank Sudsey for sharing her story.
>I, like her, always have known that I was adopted. I don't recall much
>of my early childhood, there were good times and bad times, I guess I
>have blocked it all out... but I do know that I do not ever remember a
>time when I did not know I was adopted. My Dad is also adopted, so I'm
>second generation! My older younger brother is also adopted although we
>are not related.
>I have never looked back and thought things could have been better if my
>birth mom had kept me. Sure, things might have been different, but,
>despite the hard times, I've been blessed with a Dad who loves me so
>very much and would do anything for me. I have recently asked the
>province for a search for my biological parents, namely my birth mother,
>but only for medical reasons. What with this 'wonderful' disease we all
>share and a few other 'minor' health issues, it's becoming more
>important to me to find out further medial history. I wouldn't mind
>meeting my birth mother, if only to show her that she made the right
>choice as Sudsey says - I've had a good life with wonderful
>opportunities given through my expereinces with my family - however, MY
>DAD IS MY DAD - no-one could EVER take that away from me!
>I have to admit I do not remember much in the way of hassles from kids
>as we grew up - but, like I said I think I have blocked a lot out. We
>also went to a new school every year, so that makes a bit of a
>difference too (no, not a military brat, we just moved a lot). I'm sure
>there were times when kids got to me, but I honestly do not remember a
>time when I let it get to me.
>Recently I was staying with the parents of some friends and the dad took
>the time to find out a bit more about me. He got this incredible glow
>in his eyes when he found out I was adopted and said "You were CHOSEN,
>how special!" made me cry then and now too!
>As I struggle with my decision to have hysterectomy I struggle with the
>loss of my 'womanhood' and the ability to do what I was designed to do,
>yet I KNOW, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that adoption is of course an
>option, no, more than that, a gift, a gift that I am especially equipped
>to be able to share with the child that I adopt in the future. I even
>get to carry on the family 'tradition'! This will still be quite a
>struggle, but when I come out of the fog of the pain, I know that I will
>be blessed with a special child, a child who was destined for me
>anyway...
>Hugs to all who are struggling too, with the physical and emotional pain
>this shared experience brings to each of us.
>Stephanie
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