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Re: Hysterectomy and grief
From: Stephanie (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Sep 29 12:26:03 2005
At Thu, 29 Sep 2005, anonymous wrote:
Thanks anonymous, you bring up some very valid thoughts and ideas,
things everyone who goes through this must be aware of, especially if
they or their significant other has not had a family yet. I appreciate
your concern very much. I think I've got that covered already with my
pastor-friend, but maybe having an 'outsider' would be of different
value too...something to think about anyway.
thanks again for your advice.
>
>The most important thing you must remember is this:
>
>You will not only be grieving for the loss of your fertility and the
>ability to experience pregnancy, labor and delivery but also for the
>loss of an organ. It's very difficult to describe in words but that is
>part of the grieving process and it is a process, a long process and not
>something you just "get over" no loss is.
>
>You need to have the knowledge in the back of your mind (so you don't
>get surprised by it later) that at a later date, when you meet Mr.
>I-want-to-grow-old-with, you will have to once again go through this
>grieving process. Men sometimes have a harder time with that because
>having a son to carry on the family name is something that is expected
>of them.
>
>You may want to consider seeing a therapist for some grief counseling
>now or as soon after surgery as possible. Be sure to discuss not only
>how to get through this now, but try to plan some strategies for later
>when you are faced with the scenario of telling your future husband that
>you are unable to have children.
>
>much luck to you.
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