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Re: Need some emotional support
From: Leigh (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat Sep 24 13:24:20 2005
I offer you both my support and understanding. I am happy yet sad when
I see a new baby. A little jealous too. I was pregnant once in my life
and lost it when I was 19. I believe I have had endo since my teens.
Not diagnosed until I went to the ER 3 yrs ago at 27 1/2. I was married
for 8 yrs never having used birth control. Never getting pregnant. Now
I am divorced, 31 and feel like time is running out. I too have
recieved the "Just Adopt" advise and also long for one of my own.
I don't know about you but I'm broke- Getting Garnished for my cyst
removal and lap. 3 yrs after the lap the endo has come back. I have a
boyfriend who is willing to knock me up, but with all that has happened
and is happining I don't know if I can. I am on Lupron right now, not
sure how long I will be on that. This is my first month on it and so
far it's just not working out.
I know it just infuriates me when I see these junkies and crackheads who
pop babies out left and right knowing I would be a good and safe mother
who cannot even have one of my own.
It is depressing. Yet, we must go on. I have come to the conclusion
that if I don't have one by the time I am 35. I will adopt 1 or 2 to
help those kids that got dealt crappy parents.
Don't know if this helps, but you are not alone and do have support. I
wish you better days ................
At Sat, 24 Sep 2005, Samaroni wrote:
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>I'm so sorry to hear this.
>
>How are things for you financially? Because if you're on a time limit
>(like I am) you don't need a man to have a baby. Is that something
>you'd consider? What you need is to explain to Mom and family that what
>they should do is hear your feelings and attempt to understand where
>you're coming from - not offer advice like "just adopt". That's not
>going to make you feel one bit better!
>
>If it helps, I'm in a similar boat - TWO sister in laws of mine just had
>babies, and several weeks before one of them was born, one sister
>announced at a large family gathering that:
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>1. She rememberd the name I had chosen for my baby, if I ever had one.
>2. She was taking it, because she was first.
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>I chose the name AFTER MY MOTHER. This is my Sister in-law, so her
>Mother is not the same as mine.
>
>Sounds like you need to really ask for the KIND of support you need.
>Like, saying, "Look. I know you don't know what to say - so just
>listen, and try to understand what's going on with me. Let me rant, and
>I'll feel better. Please just hug me and love me and that will be the
>best you can do to help."
>
>Good luck
>
>At Sat, 24 Sep 2005, Stacie wrote:
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>>Hi girls,
>>You are the only ones I can talk to about this. No one else seems to
>>understand my emotions. Last night I helped my mom and the doctors
>>deliver my sisters baby. I did not expect to be an emotional wreck. I
>>could not get out of the room fast enough. I know it is a happy time
>>for my sister. But the realizations kicked in. I thought I was strong
>>enough to handle it. I was diagnosed with endo last year. I have has 3
>>surgeries and the last one they took my left ovary and tube. The doctor
>>said I may have a 50 percent chance to concieve. And she could not
>>guarantee when the endo will come back or a if a tumor would form on my
>>ovary I have left. That is what happened to my left one. She said if I
>>wanted a baby, I am on a time limit. I am divorced. I have no one. I
>>cried my eyes out when I got home. I guess I just need to talk to all
>>of you. This is so hard. Mom says there is adoption. I know there is
>>but I would at least like to have my own. This sounds selfish I know.
>>But it just hurt so damn bad when I saw her with her new baby. Life
>>just isnt fair. Sorry I am crying again and this is so long. I have to
>>go up to the hospital again in a little bit to see the baby. I hope I
>>can be strong enough this time. Thanks for your support.
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