ENDO Messages for September, 2005: Re: Need some emotional support

Re: Need some emotional support

From: Samaroni (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat Sep 24 11:01:19 2005

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I'm so sorry to hear this.

How are things for you financially? Because if you're on a time limit (like I am) you don't need a man to have a baby. Is that something you'd consider? What you need is to explain to Mom and family that what they should do is hear your feelings and attempt to understand where you're coming from - not offer advice like "just adopt". That's not going to make you feel one bit better!

If it helps, I'm in a similar boat - TWO sister in laws of mine just had babies, and several weeks before one of them was born, one sister announced at a large family gathering that:

1. She rememberd the name I had chosen for my baby, if I ever had one. 2. She was taking it, because she was first.

I chose the name AFTER MY MOTHER. This is my Sister in-law, so her Mother is not the same as mine.

Sounds like you need to really ask for the KIND of support you need. Like, saying, "Look. I know you don't know what to say - so just listen, and try to understand what's going on with me. Let me rant, and I'll feel better. Please just hug me and love me and that will be the best you can do to help."

Good luck

At Sat, 24 Sep 2005, Stacie wrote: >
>Hi girls,
>You are the only ones I can talk to about this. No one else seems to
>understand my emotions. Last night I helped my mom and the doctors
>deliver my sisters baby. I did not expect to be an emotional wreck. I
>could not get out of the room fast enough. I know it is a happy time
>for my sister. But the realizations kicked in. I thought I was strong
>enough to handle it. I was diagnosed with endo last year. I have has 3
>surgeries and the last one they took my left ovary and tube. The doctor
>said I may have a 50 percent chance to concieve. And she could not
>guarantee when the endo will come back or a if a tumor would form on my
>ovary I have left. That is what happened to my left one. She said if I
>wanted a baby, I am on a time limit. I am divorced. I have no one. I
>cried my eyes out when I got home. I guess I just need to talk to all
>of you. This is so hard. Mom says there is adoption. I know there is
>but I would at least like to have my own. This sounds selfish I know.
>But it just hurt so damn bad when I saw her with her new baby. Life
>just isnt fair. Sorry I am crying again and this is so long. I have to
>go up to the hospital again in a little bit to see the baby. I hope I
>can be strong enough this time. Thanks for your support.

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