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Re: jobs and bosses-Stephanie
From: Alyson (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon Sep 19 14:19:04 2005
Yes exactly! She knows I can't lift things right now and yet she will
just stand around and watch me unload our gear and stuff. Its like she
thinks I am exaggerating or something. She came back the office the
other day and just dropped our gear right by the front door. I know she
expects me to put it away, but it is SO heavy and I SO don't feel up to
it. I'm an environmental biologist. I do endangered species surveys,
wetland work, etc. It involves alot of long hot tiring days outside
sometimes that I used to be able to handle with no problem. And yes, my
other boss (who's a MAN!!) is quite a bit more understanding. So
strange.
Alyson
t Mon, 19 Sep 2005, Stephanie wrote:
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>Oh Alyson, I can sooooo understand. I think I would have had more
>sympathy and understanding from my previous boss, a MAN! than my current
>supervisor, who has been through not endo, but other 'female' problems
>and had a hysterectomy... While my job does not involve diving for
>example (just what do you do?! sounds interesting, all pain aside!) it
>does involve farm work of sorts which can be physically demanding at
>times (the time at my desk is actually worse for me, our desks were not
>designed for computer work). She also is not understanding about the
>lifting restrictions - why can't I carry the 20# ultrasound a few feet
>(more like 100 plus a series of chutes to weave through)? So, although
>we are in different fields and I work at an academic institution, I can
>sympathize. Unfortunately, I have no answers either. I feel like my
>boss also thinks I am incompetent and useless. Well, maybe that's
>taking it too an extreme, but I am starting to consider looking at
>options...
>
>At Mon, 19 Sep 2005, Alyson wrote:
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>>How do you all deal with work and having this issue? My job is very
>>active and involves having to hike, be on a boat, dive, etc. All
>>fantastic unless doing it leaves you in pain, or you can't do it because
>>you are in pain. I feel like my boss thinks I am blowing it out of
>>proportion. When I told her I have to have surgery I got this "What are
>>we going to do with you?" response followed by "I know its no fun to
>>have cramps all the time." I mean I understand that she has no way to
>>know what my pain is like, but it just feels so demeaning. She'll ask
>>me to do stuff that she knows causes me pain and then she'll just stand
>>there and watch. I work for a very small company and I am the only
>>person they turn to in order to get this work done. If I don't do it
>>today, I have to do it later because there is no one else to do it. I
>>went into my field because I didn't want an office job and now office
>>work is about all I can handle. I just don't know how to deal with the
>>situation without making myself look incompetent.
>>Alyson
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