Re: 2nd time around
From: Kara (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri Jul 22 11:38:53 2005
Terrya,
I have to be honest and say that the first several hours after surgery
was horrid. Maybe it was because I had a bad reaction to the
anesthesia, but I was vomitting, and had a hard time remembering to
breathe, and i had severe pain. They wouldn't give me anything extra
for pain due to my breathing issues. HOWEVER, the day after the surgery
- I was up and walking around (a little hunched over). Dr. Delumba had
me soak in a bathtub twice within the first 24 hours and I think that
helped A LOT (especially with the pulling feeling at my inscision
sites). Since I had a lot of work done on my bladder from endo, i was
sore for a couple weeks afterwards - especially when my bladder got
somewhat full. Here I am now, 3 weeks afterwards and I couldn't be
happier. I would do it all over again if I had to. I feel
remarkable!!!!! Dr. Delumba TRULY cares about this!! He KNOWS we have
pain.. and he KNOWS he has to make it better for us. I just had my
first Lupron shot this past Monday - and although I've heard horror
stories from it - I've had SEVERAL doctors say that it's the best way to
go. I'll just be happy if I can go 6 months without pain!!!
Good Luck to you!! Keep in touch.
Kara
At Mon, 18 Jul 2005, Terrya wrote:
>
>Hi Kara,
>
>I am 23 and have already ahd 2 laps for endo with another doctor. I
>have recently found Dr. Delumba and am considering undergoing a third
>lap with him in hopes of some relief. I am not looking for a cure
>because I know that simply does not exist, I just wonder if you have had
>much relief since your sugery with him compared to the first surgery? He
>seems very nice and knowledgeable and I like the fact that he treats
>only this condition, but I am still hoping to have children at some
>point and really don't want to add additional adhesions from a 3rd
>surgery if it is not really going to help with my pain. Any information
>you can provide would be greatly appreciated.
>Thanks,
>Terrya
>
>At Fri, 27 May 2005, Nicole wrote:
>>
>>Hi Kara!
>>
>>It is very sad that doctors would call it an election to have surgery. I
>>guess most of them feel we have menstral pain just a bit worse than
>>others. They have NO idea. I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering
>>and I'm hoping that your doctor will be able to help you to feel better.
>>As for you getting too old for kids. You are STILL very young and have
>>quite awhile to go before you're too old. :) Get yourself well and Let
>>me know how you are feeling when your surgery is over. Good luck to you
>>too and Thank you for your sweet words!
>>Have a good day!
>>
>>At Fri, 27 May 2005, Kara wrote:
>>>
>>>Hey Nicole,
>>>
>>>Thank you for your response. I do not know how my doctor is going to
>>>treat my Endo this time around. I usually see his Nurse Practitioner
>>>for all my exams, and the first time for me to see him is going to be my
>>>pre-op the day before my surgery. I yearn to be PAIN FREE!!!! Yesterday
>>>I felt like someone was tugging on my front side then tugging on my tail
>>>bone. I couldn't get confortable, and just prayed for a LITTLE RELIEF.
>>>I took some Ultracet and felt a bit better. I know what you're saying
>>>about it not being fair to a child to have to go through this with their
>>>mom, I totally agree. I pray that I am able to have a child when this
>>>is done and over with. Me being 31 and my boyfriend being 40 - kinda
>>>puts us getting to that "biologically too old" age. I just keep
>>>thinking to myself - 1 more month --- 1 more month.. then i'll be pain
>>>free. Why do doctors consider this an "ELECTIVE" surgery?? I sure as
>>>heck don't elect to stay in this pain! Nor do I elect to continue this
>>>pain while they try "other means" of supressing this. Oh my... I just
>>>get frustrated when I think about this.
>>>
>>>Anyway, Thank you Nicole - your words were very kind and hit my heart
>>>where they needed to. Good luck to you and your husband!!
>>>
>>>~Kara
>>>
>>>At Wed, 25 May 2005, Nicole wrote:
>>>>
>>>>Hi Kara!
>>>>
>>>>I am 29 and just had my 2nd lap in March. I saw an Endo specialist in
>>>>Oregon this time so he removed the disease with excision instead of
>>>>laser which is what I had last time in 1998 here in Alaska and I never
>>>>got better, only worse over the years. I have been married for 10 years
>>>>now and my husband and I would really love to conceive but aren't sure
>>>>if it will happen. I have been PAIN FREE for a few months now, and it's
>>>>the first time in 12 years that I've felt this good. Do you know how
>>>>your doctor is going to treat the Endo during your lap? I'm so happy to
>>>>hear that you also have a wonderful, supportive other-half! :) My
>>>>husband is my bestfriend and I wouldn't be better today without his
>>>>support and push to get me to a specialist. No one can tell you if you
>>>>will be able to bear child but the known thing is that you need to be
>>>>better and to be able to take good care of yourself before you'll be
>>>>able to care for a child. Can you imagine having a child and trying to
>>>>care for it in the pain that you are? It wouldn't be right. I don't
>>>>mean that in a MEAN way either. I'm serious. I've wanted a kid for a
>>>>long time now but have been so sick and in pain it's almost sad to think
>>>>about a child having to witness it's mother going through all of that.
>>>>Talk to your doctor. Maybe if it's really important to you after your
>>>>surgery you could talk about fertility options. With my 1st lap my
>>>>doctor told me the best chance for me to get pregnant would be with in
>>>>the 1st 6 months after surgery. That didn't happen so here I am after
>>>>my 2nd lap and pain free and still haven't been able to conceive. It
>>>>could happen still I guess. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that
>>>>you're not alone and that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope
>>>>that your surgery is successful and that you will have everything that
>>>>your heart desires. Have a good day!
>>>>
>>>>At Wed, 25 May 2005, Kara wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>Hey everyone, I'm 31 years old and in about a month will be going
>>>>>through my 2nd surgery for Endo. I was devastated when I had to hear
>>>>>the words again... it was almost word for word.. "Due to the extreme
>>>>>pain, and tenderness, and the lack of movement with your uterus and
>>>>>ovaries, we would like to do a lap to verify if it's endometriosis." The
>>>>>pain is much MUCH worse this time than last. I've heard of so many
>>>>>stories with women who have had to deal with this so frequently, and
>>>>>that they have not been successful with bearing children. I have not
>>>>>had any children yet, and am nervously wondering if I ever will. My
>>>>>boyfriend and I have discussed it (the possibilities of not ever having
>>>>>one have come up in those discussions). I've been to the Emergency Room
>>>>>twice for severe pain, and they have given me shots of Morphine just to
>>>>>relax me. I've tried Hydrocodone and Tramadol for pain. It's unreal...
>>>>>this pain. My boyfriend has to be one of the sweetest men in the world
>>>>>though - he's there for me.. all the time.. during the painful days,
>>>>>and the days I can actually function. He does everything he can to make
>>>>>me smile again. I guess I'm wondering.. does anyone really know what
>>>>>the chances are of me ever being able to carry a child??? This is so
>>>>>frustrating to me. Not to mention I have had to wait 6 weeks from the
>>>>>time I was told about having surgery - and my actual surgery date. My
>>>>>doctor, Dr. Dulemba (Denton, TX) is supposed to be one of the best
>>>>>doctors around. I pray that everything goes well, and i'm hoping that
>>>>>someone out there can help boost my spirits a bit. Thanks for
>>>>>listening!
>>>>
>>>>--
>>>>Nicole
>>>>
>>--
>>Nicole
>>
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