ENDO Messages for July, 2005: Re: I'm so tired of this I can't cry anymore

Re: I'm so tired of this I can't cry anymore

From: Anna (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun Jul 10 11:30:13 2005

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Hi Jamie,

Well, I don't know if I can help, but I can tell you that I totally relate. When my husband and I first got together, I would have some pain with intercourse, but not bad, and only in the day or two before my cycle. I could basically ignore it. Since then, it has gotten much worse. I have found it hard to even want to have intercourse because I know it will be painful... and this creates a mental block that may be a separate problem in and of itself. When my husband tells me he wants me to really enjoy sex and feel great, I tell him I would be perfectly happy if it just didn't hurt.

Is the pain you are having inside your abdomen, or is it irritated tissue upon entry? Or both? I'm asking because depending on what kind of pain it is, different things might help.

My doctors haven't helped much, but I have a new doctor now who has been much more helpful and knowledgable overall. I had one GYN who just didn't get it. She was explaining how we could very likely get pregnant, and I was trying to tell her, look, if it hurts too bad to have sex, we're not going to get pregnant. She didn't seem to get it. Anyway--

What kind of pain med's have you tried? Have you tried taking them 20 minutes before intercourse (or however long they take to kick in -- if they kick in at all that is)? That is one suggestion. If the pain is in the vulvar area (outside the body) then lidocaine gel (by prescription) applied 10 min before intercourse can help a lot. Just don't overdo it or you won't feel much of anything (which is okay sometimes too!).

I'm so sorry you're going through this too. It sounds like your husband is really understanding, and that is huge.

Hang in there,

-Anna

At Sat, 9 Jul 2005, Jamie wrote: >
>What I really would like is maybe some help. I was told I had endo when
>I was 18 (I'm 23 now) and I've been on different birth control pills,
>I've had surgery and I've tired more natural methods of dealing with the
>pain. I'm on Depo Provera now... and I finally don't have pain EVERY
>day. But I still have a problem... I just got married a year ago and I
>can't have sex with my husband. I just hurts me too much... When we
>were first together there was no problem. When the endo started to get
>worse I started getting more problems, more severe pain (I actually
>called into work because I couldn't get out of bed), more days of being
>in pain, nausea, I was either constipated or had diarrhea, my back
>hurt.. you get the idea. About a year or more of being with my now
>husband I started having pain during intercourse... nothing to bad it
>was just uncomfortable.... But I am at the point now that I could never
>have sex again and be just fine with it. But I love my husband and he
>nows its a problem for me he doesn't pressure me... but I just wish
>there was something that I could do so I could be with him and have it
>not hurt... it even hurts the whole next day after... I can't even try
>and take care of things myself with out hurting... I just don't know
>what to do... If anyone can tell me anything... I would really like to
>try it... My doctor hasn't helped... I hope somebody can.

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