ENDO Messages for June, 2005: Re: here for help with my wife.

Re: here for help with my wife.

From: Shelly (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Jun 30 12:14:52 2005

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Hi Eric,

I'm a married woman that suffers from endometriosis and a lot of other stomach/abdominal issues. I can only imagine how frustrating it is for my husband to sit back and watch me suffer, that's why I decided to reply to your message. I figured we could help each other out.

It seems like my husband has gotten very tired of my complaining and pain and sometimes he even seems annoyed. He says that it's because he feels so helpless and wants me to just feel better. Is that how you're feeling?

I will say this, us women that have this horrible problem don't know what do for ourselves, much less tell our loved ones how they can help us. We simply don't know and that's part of our misery. It really does help emotionally to be able to have someone just to listen and empathize and do small things for you. Examples(for me anyway) are: Cooking light dinners when I'm in too much pain and my stomach is all messed up, getting our daughter ready in the morning and for bed at night, laying in bed with me and just being there to hold my hand or rub my back, running to the pharmacy to pick up meds or to the store for hot chocolate or tea, renting movies from Blockbuster when I'm home sick from work, things like that. Something else that I think she might really appreciate is if maybe one day you accompanied her to the doctor and talked to the doctor yourself to see how you can help her. I don't know if the doctor would actually tell you anything you haven't already heard, but I know if my husband did that for me it would make me feel like he's involved in this with me and it's not just my battle alone.

For me, when I have emotional support for any problem, physical or otherwise, it helps me to face the problem with a more positive outlook and it motivates me to be agressive in finding a way to solve it. Showing that you care, that you're interested when she needs to vent and just showing sincere concern is priceless.

I don't know if this was at all helpful to you, but if you want to talk more just reply to this message and I'll respond.

I wish all the best to you and your wife!

-Shelly

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Shelly Semeraro

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