Re: Looking for someone to talk to about-TO ANNOYMOUS
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun Jun 26 20:46:56 2005
Shannon,
Why shouldn't any of the women here seek some fun in their lives and an
opportunity to set aside all of the details of living with endo? Why
would you want someone to only surround themselves with people like you
who focus on all the pain, misery and worry that is endo? Why shouldn't
this young woman take an opportunity to meet other women who share some
other common interest with her and then through that common interest see
what else they share?
My point was, women with endo are everywhere and if there is no
established "endo only" group in your town then don't fret about that,
instead, find where other women are and I'll bet you'll find that at
least one of those women does have endo and then voila - instant support
group of two and the two of them will find a third, etc. etc.
It is so sad and pathetic for you to constantly assume that I am
miserable and lonely. I'm just trying to help people not like you to
see that there is more to living with endo than support groups focused
solely on endo. I have a life and I'm living it, shame you can't bring
yourself to do the same.
And such a "christian" thing for you to say: "God bless everyone, but
you, that comes on here and makes a difference in every woman's life."
Who the heck are you to say something like that? How arrogant, pompous
and selfish you are.
I may not include spiritual, religious signature lines in my messages
but I would never stoop so low as to say something like that to anyone,
not even you!
I stand by what I said to all the young women here who are trying so
hard to attend school and build their careers and families - if there is
no established support group in your town then try to meet other women
who share another common interest with you - cooking, sewing, bowling,
reading, movies, anything and from there you will build common bonds and
companionship and from there you can build your own support group based
upon your common needs. Be creative and be inventive but most of all,
be happy and live!
At Sun, 26 Jun 2005, Shannon wrote:
>
>Annoymous- If you don't want to listen to "selp pitty" as you call it?
>Get a life and stop coming on here. I think you are just a lonely, self
>pathetic, miserable woman who obviously has nothing better to do than
>come on here and slam women who need help. Why don't you go out and go
>bowling and meet other women?! Women come here for support. That is
>what we are, excluding you. We support each other b/c it is nice to
>know that there are others out there that are going through similiar
>things. It is not depressing. It is therapeutic. I just had 8
>surgeries so let me go bowling as well. You are the reason the world is
>the way it is. You have no use or purpose in here or probably any where
>else for that matter. God bless everyone, but you, that comes on here
>and makes a difference in every woman's life. Another thing, you are
>too insecure, yet ahole enough, to not give your name on here. I can
>imagine why you don't. You should seek counseling. All of us help
>eachother and we are all heaven sent. You, you are just a pos. Does it
>make you feel better to put others down? Is your self esteem that low,
>that you feel the need to come on here and say ignorant and ludacris
>things. Just stop coming on here.
>You help no one! You don't even help yourself as you can tell. If you
>were, perhaps you wouldn't be such a pitiful, bitter woman.
>As for the rest of us, keep supporting one another!
>
>At Sat, 25 Jun 2005, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>I understand the basic human need to find 'a flock of birds' to fit into
>>so you don't feel like the 'odd duck' but maybe, what you really need is
>>to find a group of people to share a more positive interest in, you
>>know, like a quilting bee, reading club, bridge club, something,
>>anything that will do the opposite of what most support groups do which
>>is wallow in the misery of whatever ails them. Think about it, would
>>you rather meet with a bunch of women once a week and talk about how
>>miserable you are, how lonely you are, how much pain you're in and how
>>your life sucks because of it? Exactly how would that take you forward
>>and help you cope?
>>
>>Endo sucks, it hurts, it interferes with every aspect of our lives and
>>encroaches upon our pursuit of happiness but the last thing in the world
>>I would want to do with my free time is listen to a group of other women
>>tell me they feel the same way. Maybe that's why you're having such a
>>hard time finding them, because they don't want to sit around reminding
>>themselves and each other how miserable they are and instead they are
>>out bowling?
>>
>>So, my advice to you and everyone else who has written here complaining
>>that they are all alone in their suffereing because there's no support
>>group in their town, get out of the house and go do something you like
>>to do and meet other women who are doing it too and THEN you can get to
>>know each other and THEN I'll bet you'll find there's at least one who
>>does have endo and you can then share information and I'll bet she has
>>another friend who has endo, etc. See my point? Don't focus on the
>>thing that makes you miserable to sustain your life, focus on life to
>>help you cope with what makes you miserable and then you'll find one day
>>that coping isn't so hard to do.
>>
>>At Sat, 25 Jun 2005, Tammisha wrote:
>>>
>>>I've had endo for 12 years now. I have survived 5 labs, Lupron 3 times,
>>>Danocrin 3 times, Dep Provera once (and will NEVER venture there again),
>>>various birth controls and Femera twice. For now the endo is under
>>>control, but I still cringe at the slightest twinge. I'm really doing
>>>well, but with all the medical bills while trying to get through
>>>college, I have had to move back home to live with my parents until I
>>>can get on my feet again. I'm too old to be living with my parents and
>>>get depressed about this and many other things quite often. I have
>>>joined ERC and EA, but I can't seem to find any one I can talk to. There
>>>are no support groups in my area. Other than my parents, I don't have
>>>anyone around me who understand what all is involved with endo. Even
>>>though it is under control right now I still have a lot of things I have
>>>to deal with, with endo. I just wish I could find some one to talk to.
>>>I have tried searching for books on dealing with the after effects of
>>>endo, but I have had no luck, can any one point me in the right
>>>direction for finding someone to talk to or a book that might help me?
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