ENDO Messages for June, 2005: Re: Looking for someone to talk to about

Re: Looking for someone to talk to about

From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat Jun 25 17:13:07 2005

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I understand the basic human need to find 'a flock of birds' to fit into so you don't feel like the 'odd duck' but maybe, what you really need is to find a group of people to share a more positive interest in, you know, like a quilting bee, reading club, bridge club, something, anything that will do the opposite of what most support groups do which is wallow in the misery of whatever ails them. Think about it, would you rather meet with a bunch of women once a week and talk about how miserable you are, how lonely you are, how much pain you're in and how your life sucks because of it? Exactly how would that take you forward and help you cope?

Endo sucks, it hurts, it interferes with every aspect of our lives and encroaches upon our pursuit of happiness but the last thing in the world I would want to do with my free time is listen to a group of other women tell me they feel the same way. Maybe that's why you're having such a hard time finding them, because they don't want to sit around reminding themselves and each other how miserable they are and instead they are out bowling?

So, my advice to you and everyone else who has written here complaining that they are all alone in their suffereing because there's no support group in their town, get out of the house and go do something you like to do and meet other women who are doing it too and THEN you can get to know each other and THEN I'll bet you'll find there's at least one who does have endo and you can then share information and I'll bet she has another friend who has endo, etc. See my point? Don't focus on the thing that makes you miserable to sustain your life, focus on life to help you cope with what makes you miserable and then you'll find one day that coping isn't so hard to do.

At Sat, 25 Jun 2005, Tammisha wrote: >
>I've had endo for 12 years now. I have survived 5 labs, Lupron 3 times,
>Danocrin 3 times, Dep Provera once (and will NEVER venture there again),
>various birth controls and Femera twice. For now the endo is under
>control, but I still cringe at the slightest twinge. I'm really doing
>well, but with all the medical bills while trying to get through
>college, I have had to move back home to live with my parents until I
>can get on my feet again. I'm too old to be living with my parents and
>get depressed about this and many other things quite often. I have
>joined ERC and EA, but I can't seem to find any one I can talk to. There
>are no support groups in my area. Other than my parents, I don't have
>anyone around me who understand what all is involved with endo. Even
>though it is under control right now I still have a lot of things I have
>to deal with, with endo. I just wish I could find some one to talk to.
>I have tried searching for books on dealing with the after effects of
>endo, but I have had no luck, can any one point me in the right
>direction for finding someone to talk to or a book that might help me?

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