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Re: Support
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu Jun 9 19:02:12 2005
Thank you for your kind words and understanding. You are right that we
all have good days and bad days, just sometimes the bad days outway the
good days, actually mostly it seems there are more bad days. I feel
aweful for the way i feel selfish for my problems when the rest of you
are going through the same thing if not worse. Most poeple are
wondering "Will I ever have kids?" Well here I am pregnant and dealing
with the pain of the endo. At least i got pregnant, and unexpectedly.
My Dr. told me hey we are really thinking of taking out your ovary, but
we need a second opinion - Second opinion time came around and that was
when i found out i was pregnant. Maybe it is all my hormones going
crazy or maybe i do need to get on antidepressant - if you can even do
that during prgnancy, but i know i need to do something. To all of the
rst of you I am sorry I am being selfish complaining about all the pain
i having while I am pregnnt when you are having problems getting
pregnant. Sometimes i just feel like being a big baby, crawl up in a
hole somwhere and grip to myself about how aweful everything seems to
be, especially when it comes to the pain. And don't get me wrong about
my husband, i know i made him look bad, but for the most part he is
super supportive, but this is hard for him to deal with, especially not
being able to fix it for me or take some of the pain out of my everyday
life. Let me ask a side question to everyone - does the pain ever
increase when you are stressed out? I find that is does for me all the
time. For instance i once saw a little kid almost get run over when a
car was backing up because neither the kid or the driver were paying
attention and the only that stopped it was me blowing the horn like
crazy to get the driver to stop. After that all this pain shot up
inside me and nearly put me out for a cople of days. But anyway thank
you for confirming that I am not the only one - even though I already
knew that it still helps alot to hear it. THANKS!!
At Thu, 9 Jun 2005, Jessica wrote:
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>Hey girl, you are not alone. Everyone here knows somewhat how everyone
>else is feeling. It is the place where we can come and talk about this
>problem, and not wonder if they judge you. My first advice to you is to
>find some time to sit down and talk with your husband about this. Better
>yet, write him a letter. Tell him how you are feeling, and what you
>need from him. Some men just have to be told, they can't infer how you
>feel. Maybe after you tell him, he will stop being so selfish. Second,
>about your doctor. I would call and ask him or his office of a doctor
>that they could recommend to you. Then, perhaps your doctor would write
>a detailed history for you or even give this new doctor a phone call to
>bring him/ her up to speed. Also, I would talk to your doctor about
>options regarding an antidepressant. There is such a bad stigma about
>some of these minor drugs, that people are afraid to say that they need
>them. But, you cannot possibly know how many people are on these drugs
>at any given moment. I am in the Healthcare field and I have had
>patients that are on Prozac, and their significant others or families
>don't even know. My point is, dont be afraid to ask for something like
>this when you think you may need it. Medical technology has come a very
>long way. Lastly, remember that you are not alone. There are people
>here, and not here that go through the same things we go through every
>day. We all have bad days among our good ones, and it is how we cope
>with the bad ones that makes all the difference. Try to remind yourself
>that if nowhere else, the people here understand what you are going
>through, and you can come on and tell your story anytime you need
>someone to talk to. You have support, here, if nowhere else.
>
>Hope this helps you at all,
>Jessica A.
>
>At Wed, 8 Jun 2005, anonymous wrote:
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>>You know sometimes all someone needs is to know that they are not the
>>only one going through these problems. I think everyone on this site
>>wants to be sure that this is all going to be okay. I wrote a post a
>>couple of days ago because i needed reassurance and some hope that i was
>>going to be alright. I know that no one here is an expert, but like i
>>said all I wanted was a little support knowing that I am not the only
>>one going through this. Not even my husband supports me to much, he
>>never understands that it hurts so much to have sex and that i almost
>>never want to have it again knowing that everytime i am going to be in
>>pain for the next couple of days at least. My doctor got promoted and
>>moved up in the office to a no patient status, the only person that
>>believed me and helped me is now out of my life and i have to start all
>>over again getting someone to believe me and what my doctor has already
>>found. Life sucks right now, no support anywhere, all alone - great.
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