Re: 2nd time around
From: Nicole (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri May 27 14:35:57 2005
Hi Kara!
It is very sad that doctors would call it an election to have surgery. I
guess most of them feel we have menstral pain just a bit worse than
others. They have NO idea. I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering
and I'm hoping that your doctor will be able to help you to feel better.
As for you getting too old for kids. You are STILL very young and have
quite awhile to go before you're too old. :) Get yourself well and Let
me know how you are feeling when your surgery is over. Good luck to you
too and Thank you for your sweet words!
Have a good day!
At Fri, 27 May 2005, Kara wrote:
>
>Hey Nicole,
>
>Thank you for your response. I do not know how my doctor is going to
>treat my Endo this time around. I usually see his Nurse Practitioner
>for all my exams, and the first time for me to see him is going to be my
>pre-op the day before my surgery. I yearn to be PAIN FREE!!!! Yesterday
>I felt like someone was tugging on my front side then tugging on my tail
>bone. I couldn't get confortable, and just prayed for a LITTLE RELIEF.
>I took some Ultracet and felt a bit better. I know what you're saying
>about it not being fair to a child to have to go through this with their
>mom, I totally agree. I pray that I am able to have a child when this
>is done and over with. Me being 31 and my boyfriend being 40 - kinda
>puts us getting to that "biologically too old" age. I just keep
>thinking to myself - 1 more month --- 1 more month.. then i'll be pain
>free. Why do doctors consider this an "ELECTIVE" surgery?? I sure as
>heck don't elect to stay in this pain! Nor do I elect to continue this
>pain while they try "other means" of supressing this. Oh my... I just
>get frustrated when I think about this.
>
>Anyway, Thank you Nicole - your words were very kind and hit my heart
>where they needed to. Good luck to you and your husband!!
>
>~Kara
>
>At Wed, 25 May 2005, Nicole wrote:
>>
>>Hi Kara!
>>
>>I am 29 and just had my 2nd lap in March. I saw an Endo specialist in
>>Oregon this time so he removed the disease with excision instead of
>>laser which is what I had last time in 1998 here in Alaska and I never
>>got better, only worse over the years. I have been married for 10 years
>>now and my husband and I would really love to conceive but aren't sure
>>if it will happen. I have been PAIN FREE for a few months now, and it's
>>the first time in 12 years that I've felt this good. Do you know how
>>your doctor is going to treat the Endo during your lap? I'm so happy to
>>hear that you also have a wonderful, supportive other-half! :) My
>>husband is my bestfriend and I wouldn't be better today without his
>>support and push to get me to a specialist. No one can tell you if you
>>will be able to bear child but the known thing is that you need to be
>>better and to be able to take good care of yourself before you'll be
>>able to care for a child. Can you imagine having a child and trying to
>>care for it in the pain that you are? It wouldn't be right. I don't
>>mean that in a MEAN way either. I'm serious. I've wanted a kid for a
>>long time now but have been so sick and in pain it's almost sad to think
>>about a child having to witness it's mother going through all of that.
>>Talk to your doctor. Maybe if it's really important to you after your
>>surgery you could talk about fertility options. With my 1st lap my
>>doctor told me the best chance for me to get pregnant would be with in
>>the 1st 6 months after surgery. That didn't happen so here I am after
>>my 2nd lap and pain free and still haven't been able to conceive. It
>>could happen still I guess. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that
>>you're not alone and that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope
>>that your surgery is successful and that you will have everything that
>>your heart desires. Have a good day!
>>
>>At Wed, 25 May 2005, Kara wrote:
>>>
>>>Hey everyone, I'm 31 years old and in about a month will be going
>>>through my 2nd surgery for Endo. I was devastated when I had to hear
>>>the words again... it was almost word for word.. "Due to the extreme
>>>pain, and tenderness, and the lack of movement with your uterus and
>>>ovaries, we would like to do a lap to verify if it's endometriosis." The
>>>pain is much MUCH worse this time than last. I've heard of so many
>>>stories with women who have had to deal with this so frequently, and
>>>that they have not been successful with bearing children. I have not
>>>had any children yet, and am nervously wondering if I ever will. My
>>>boyfriend and I have discussed it (the possibilities of not ever having
>>>one have come up in those discussions). I've been to the Emergency Room
>>>twice for severe pain, and they have given me shots of Morphine just to
>>>relax me. I've tried Hydrocodone and Tramadol for pain. It's unreal...
>>>this pain. My boyfriend has to be one of the sweetest men in the world
>>>though - he's there for me.. all the time.. during the painful days,
>>>and the days I can actually function. He does everything he can to make
>>>me smile again. I guess I'm wondering.. does anyone really know what
>>>the chances are of me ever being able to carry a child??? This is so
>>>frustrating to me. Not to mention I have had to wait 6 weeks from the
>>>time I was told about having surgery - and my actual surgery date. My
>>>doctor, Dr. Dulemba (Denton, TX) is supposed to be one of the best
>>>doctors around. I pray that everything goes well, and i'm hoping that
>>>someone out there can help boost my spirits a bit. Thanks for
>>>listening!
>>
>>--
>>Nicole
>>
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Nicole
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