Re: 2nd time around
From: Kara (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri May 27 09:50:36 2005
Hey Nicole,
Thank you for your response. I do not know how my doctor is going to
treat my Endo this time around. I usually see his Nurse Practitioner
for all my exams, and the first time for me to see him is going to be my
pre-op the day before my surgery. I yearn to be PAIN FREE!!!! Yesterday
I felt like someone was tugging on my front side then tugging on my tail
bone. I couldn't get confortable, and just prayed for a LITTLE RELIEF.
I took some Ultracet and felt a bit better. I know what you're saying
about it not being fair to a child to have to go through this with their
mom, I totally agree. I pray that I am able to have a child when this
is done and over with. Me being 31 and my boyfriend being 40 - kinda
puts us getting to that "biologically too old" age. I just keep
thinking to myself - 1 more month --- 1 more month.. then i'll be pain
free. Why do doctors consider this an "ELECTIVE" surgery?? I sure as
heck don't elect to stay in this pain! Nor do I elect to continue this
pain while they try "other means" of supressing this. Oh my... I just
get frustrated when I think about this.
Anyway, Thank you Nicole - your words were very kind and hit my heart
where they needed to. Good luck to you and your husband!!
~Kara
At Wed, 25 May 2005, Nicole wrote:
>
>Hi Kara!
>
>I am 29 and just had my 2nd lap in March. I saw an Endo specialist in
>Oregon this time so he removed the disease with excision instead of
>laser which is what I had last time in 1998 here in Alaska and I never
>got better, only worse over the years. I have been married for 10 years
>now and my husband and I would really love to conceive but aren't sure
>if it will happen. I have been PAIN FREE for a few months now, and it's
>the first time in 12 years that I've felt this good. Do you know how
>your doctor is going to treat the Endo during your lap? I'm so happy to
>hear that you also have a wonderful, supportive other-half! :) My
>husband is my bestfriend and I wouldn't be better today without his
>support and push to get me to a specialist. No one can tell you if you
>will be able to bear child but the known thing is that you need to be
>better and to be able to take good care of yourself before you'll be
>able to care for a child. Can you imagine having a child and trying to
>care for it in the pain that you are? It wouldn't be right. I don't
>mean that in a MEAN way either. I'm serious. I've wanted a kid for a
>long time now but have been so sick and in pain it's almost sad to think
>about a child having to witness it's mother going through all of that.
>Talk to your doctor. Maybe if it's really important to you after your
>surgery you could talk about fertility options. With my 1st lap my
>doctor told me the best chance for me to get pregnant would be with in
>the 1st 6 months after surgery. That didn't happen so here I am after
>my 2nd lap and pain free and still haven't been able to conceive. It
>could happen still I guess. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that
>you're not alone and that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope
>that your surgery is successful and that you will have everything that
>your heart desires. Have a good day!
>
>At Wed, 25 May 2005, Kara wrote:
>>
>>Hey everyone, I'm 31 years old and in about a month will be going
>>through my 2nd surgery for Endo. I was devastated when I had to hear
>>the words again... it was almost word for word.. "Due to the extreme
>>pain, and tenderness, and the lack of movement with your uterus and
>>ovaries, we would like to do a lap to verify if it's endometriosis." The
>>pain is much MUCH worse this time than last. I've heard of so many
>>stories with women who have had to deal with this so frequently, and
>>that they have not been successful with bearing children. I have not
>>had any children yet, and am nervously wondering if I ever will. My
>>boyfriend and I have discussed it (the possibilities of not ever having
>>one have come up in those discussions). I've been to the Emergency Room
>>twice for severe pain, and they have given me shots of Morphine just to
>>relax me. I've tried Hydrocodone and Tramadol for pain. It's unreal...
>>this pain. My boyfriend has to be one of the sweetest men in the world
>>though - he's there for me.. all the time.. during the painful days,
>>and the days I can actually function. He does everything he can to make
>>me smile again. I guess I'm wondering.. does anyone really know what
>>the chances are of me ever being able to carry a child??? This is so
>>frustrating to me. Not to mention I have had to wait 6 weeks from the
>>time I was told about having surgery - and my actual surgery date. My
>>doctor, Dr. Dulemba (Denton, TX) is supposed to be one of the best
>>doctors around. I pray that everything goes well, and i'm hoping that
>>someone out there can help boost my spirits a bit. Thanks for
>>listening!
>
>--
>Nicole
>
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