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Re: 22 and scared
From: Shelley (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri Apr 8 10:28:32 2005
At Fri, 8 Apr 2005, melissa wrote:
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>The whole point in my coming to this site was to talk with other women
>who may also be in pain, both physically and emotionally. I actuaully
>am interested in what is happening to the rest of you women, who are
>thousands of miles away from me,and yes I do care about what is
>happening in the next room. I am 22, I have only known about
>Endometriosis for a very short time now, and I am scared. I am scared
>because I am intensly nervous about the laparoscopy, it is my first one.
>A few people that I have talked to say they don't think it will be that
>bad. For those of you that have gone through this already, what should
>I really expect? Is it as simple as people are trying to lead me to
>believe, because I am not so sure. The whole thing is so new to me, and
>so scary.
Hi Melissa, I know exactly how you are feeling, when I had my first lap
I was so scared I did'nt sleep for a week beforehand, I promise you the
fear of the unknown is far far worse than the lap itself,its not too bad
at all,try to think of it like this all you will feel is a tiny prick in
the back of your hand as you go to sleep and next thing you know,when
you wake up it will all be over,you will be a bit sore afterwards but I
promise its not that bad at all,the worst bit is that they pump you up
with gas while they do the lap so they can see everything more clearly
and I think thats the worst bit afterwards because it takes a few days
for the gas to disperse,or thats how they do it here in the UK,and you
feel quite swollen and bloated,the actual wound is very small and you
should have no more than 2 or 3 stitches.I found (and I have had 5 of
these done now) that if you take pain medication for the first 3 or 4
days and just keep topping up the dose every 4 hours,then its really
quite managable and not that bad at all,good luck I will be thinking of
you. x
>At Thu, 7 Apr 2005, anonymous wrote:
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>>Laura,
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>>Exactly what part of:
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>>"So you said in your earlier post - do you have any specific questions
>>you'd like someone to try to answer for you? Anything in particular
>>you'd like to discuss? You're going to have to give us a bit more if you
>>want us to give you what you are seeking, unless of course all you're
>>looking for is someone to say, "Yeah, I know. Good luck, we're praying
>>for you." And if so, then there ya go. I'm sure a few other women will
>>add their happy thoughts and good wishes for you as well and I hope it
>>helps you find some calm."
>>
>>did you find to be arrogant, condescending and attack-like? I offered
>>assistance and answers to any questions she may have, invited her to
>>open a topic of discussion, offered my hopes that she finds calm in
>>whatever niceties I, you and anyone else offers.
>>
>>You say you are new here so please, help us 'old-timers' help you by
>>jumping right in with specific questions, concerns and statements.
>>What's bothering you? What's on your mind? What have you learned? How do
>>you cope with pain, everyday life? How do you talk to your friends and
>>family? Do they understand? How did you get them to understand or are
>>you just lucky? What sorts of meds have you been on, how did you do with
>>them?
>>
>>Let's skip the mindless small talk, this isn't an AA meeting y'know.
>>This is real life, this is hard stuff to deal with so lets get right to
>>it. I mean really, when you're curled up in your own ball of misery do
>>you really care at all what's happening with some woman you've never met
>>who lives miles away from you? Do you even care what's happening in the
>>next room? Don't try kidding me, we've all been there.
>>
>>At Thu, 7 Apr 2005, Laura wrote:
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>>>Welcome Melissa,
>>>
>>>There are a bunch of us that are new here that are just looking for
>>>support. With this disease, it is just nice knowing that you are not
>>>alone. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. Also, search the
>>>posted messages for information. Don't let the less than warm welcome
>>>that you received by the infamous anonymous writer deter you from
>>>seeking out kind people offering help and support. Despite the few
>>>miserable people that like to attack others with their arrogant,
>>>condescending words, everyone here is really nice and helpful. This is
>>>still a SUPPORT group so we will be here for you.
>>>
>>>At Thu, 7 Apr 2005, melissa wrote:
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>>>>Hi everyone. This is my first time on this site and i am so relieved to
>>>>have the chance to chat with people who actually understand what I am
>>>>going through and aren't just going to tell me that they wish they knew
>>>>what i really felt like. I am 22 and I am having surgery in a few weeks
>>>>to attempt to relieve my pain from the endometrisis and i am so nervous.
>>>>My head feels like it is spinning, I have so many questions, so many
>>>>thoughts running through my head, this is all a little scary.
>>>>
>>>>--
>>>>Melissa
>>>>
>--
>Melissa
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Shelley
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