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Re: Got lap done today....horrified, please help
From: Shannon (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Mar 29 19:08:21 2005
At Tue, 29 Mar 2005, anonymous wrote:
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>I hope it all turns out the way you need it to Shannon. It's not easy I
>know. And your mom was lucky to have a husband who could see that his
>family came first. However, I do know that the military, especially
>George Dubya's military is not so giving, loving or family-friendly and
>many of the enlisted men, whether in combat zones or not, are under a
>tremendous amount of pressure to give all to the military and spare none
>for themselves or anyone else. It's not fair and it's not right but
>then I don't think it was ever meant to be fair.
>
>Anyway, I agree with you now as I did then, your doctor was wrong for
>prescribing such a powerful drug without a firm diagnosis of what he was
>prescribing it for. They've known since the clinical trials that drugs
>such as Lupron and Acutane have long lasting effects that go for months
>and even years beyond taking them. That is why they have such strong
>warnings and why you are limited to a specific period of use in your
>lifetime. The side-effects of any powerful drug can be pretty severe
>and will vary from person to person. What is tolerable for one may be
>mind-shattering horrible to someone else.
>
>If you feel strongly that you do not want to take any more of the Lupron
>then refuse the next injection. You don't have to take it and nobody
>can pin you down and force it in you.
>
>Make sure you get a full written copy of your laparoscopy and all
>pathology reports. Then, take that with you and seek out a NON-military
>doctor. You are not the first woman who has had trouble receiving
>proper medical care from military doctors.
>
>Good luck, rest and heal... then move on with your life and hope it
>gets better from here.
I had to go back to the emergency room tonight. My bladder is going
into spasms so I had to have a catheter (not spelled right) b/c I had
over a liter of urine that could not come out. What a fun 2 days this
has all been. Sorry for details. By the way, Dubya sucks. That is my
personal opinion so I hope no one condems me for it. I have a doctor's
appointment tomorrow with a civilian ob gyn and I already obtained all
of my records from the military. I won't find out my biopsy results
until this Friday.
Anything else new going on? I am finally free of my husband. God speed!
>
>At Tue, 29 Mar 2005, Shannon wrote:
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>>At Tue, 29 Mar 2005, anonymous wrote:
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>>>Unfortunately Shannon, you are not just married to your husband, you are
>>>married to the entire US Navy, in fact, you are married to the entire US
>>>Government - how's it feel to be in-laws with Dubya? (shudders)
>>>
>>>Anyway, were you able to follow any of the pre-surgery advice I've given
>>>you over the past few weeks? Any friends to call? Do you live on or off
>>>base? Isn't there usually wives groups on base and even off base so they
>>>can call on each other for help with the kids, etc.?
>>>
>>>Keep a pillow handy so if it looks like one of the animals is going to
>>>jump on you - you can hold the pillow out to protect yourself. The
>>>external incisions will heal pretty quickly, you are being careful so
>>>that you don't cause tears on the inside as well. You are sore because
>>>of everything being touched and moved around and in a few days you will
>>>be less sore. Pain meds are usually pretty necessary the first week.
>>>Stay off the stairs as much as you possibly can - try to make only one
>>>trip per day on them. You can move around just no bending, stretching
>>>or lifting. Walking around is good for you and gentle stretches when
>>>you stand up are ok too and will help prevent adhesions from forming.
>>>
>>>Most doctors will not interrupt the treatment prescribed unless there is
>>>good reason to and apparently you haven't made it clear to this doctor
>>>that there is good reason to quit the Lupron. The side-effects you have
>>>listed previously are not outside of normal and expected with Lupron so
>>>based upon that alone he doesn't see the need to stop treatment. I
>>>think you should just sit tight and try to relax the next couple of
>>>weeks until your doctor gets all the lab reports back and then decide
>>>what you want to do next.
>>>
>>>One step at a time
>>
>>My doctor prescribed the Lupron before even having done the lap. (which
>>was my stupidity for letting him). The lupron does NOT get rid of the
>>endo. nor does it make it stop spreading. I have done so much research
>>on the lupron. It is my body and I do not wish to have any more health
>>problems than what I already do. This doctor is incompetent,
>>insensitive, and a moron. The Endo. association says that 46.7 % of
>>women they used for a study, had side effects and more health problems
>>related to the endo. even after they stopped, 5 years later. That is
>>insane. I do not want kids.
>>I don't look at it as marrying the govt. or the military. I married my
>>husband. He is his own person and not a doll. I grew up military and
>>my father taught me that is not proper. Your family comes before all.
>>The navy is his job...I did not marry that. He knew that well before we
>>got married. I do not hang out with the military wives b/c all they
>>like to do is gossip and start rumors and I have been there and done
>>that. I have no tolerance for any of that. Not all military wives do
>>that, but most, that I have met, do. I don't have any children. There
>>is no way in this world I would live on a military base. I am not being
>>grumpy to you..just mad at the military doctors and the b/s. My husband
>>and I got legally separated today so that is that. I am going to CA to
>>see Dr. Cook. I hope you are feeling better.
>>
>>>At Mon, 28 Mar 2005, Shannon wrote:
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>>>>I went in to get my lap. done today. The doctor made 2 incisions. One
>>>>in my navel and the other right above my pelvic bone. They are both on
>>>>the outside. Then the doctor gave me pain meds. through my IV and I
>>>>had an instant horrific reaction to it. They had to give me 50 mg. of
>>>>Benadryl. I am in so much pain, mainly due to the incision above my
>>>>pelvic bone. I am not supposed to drive for 48 hours, shower, or move
>>>>much. The doctor found 3 black tissue spots and took 3 biopsies of
>>>>them. The ahole doctor just wants me to keep doing the Lupron
>>>>injections and I told him that I don't want to do them any longer b/c of
>>>>the side effects they are having on me. The doctor didn't give a shit
>>>>about me and got an attitude with me. Since he made 2 incisions and
>>>>took 3 biopsies, I am not supposed to do anything for 2 weeks.
>>>>I have no family here in VA and my husband was supposed to take leave
>>>>for the next few weeks and now he won't do it.
>>>>I am petrified, in horrific and miserable pain, and the doctor isn't
>>>>going to help me. I will be by myself until April 8th and I have to
>>>>care for 2 cats and a big dog and I have 2 huge steep stairs to climb
>>>>up.
>>>>I know my husband is in the Navy, but how does his job come before my
>>>>health?!
>>>>I want a divorce! What if something happens to me while he is gone or if
>>>>my dog messes up my stitches?
>>>>I am deeply saddened and in severe shock.
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