Re: Got lap done today....horrified, please help
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue Mar 29 16:55:59 2005
I hope it all turns out the way you need it to Shannon. It's not easy I
know. And your mom was lucky to have a husband who could see that his
family came first. However, I do know that the military, especially
George Dubya's military is not so giving, loving or family-friendly and
many of the enlisted men, whether in combat zones or not, are under a
tremendous amount of pressure to give all to the military and spare none
for themselves or anyone else. It's not fair and it's not right but
then I don't think it was ever meant to be fair.
Anyway, I agree with you now as I did then, your doctor was wrong for
prescribing such a powerful drug without a firm diagnosis of what he was
prescribing it for. They've known since the clinical trials that drugs
such as Lupron and Acutane have long lasting effects that go for months
and even years beyond taking them. That is why they have such strong
warnings and why you are limited to a specific period of use in your
lifetime. The side-effects of any powerful drug can be pretty severe
and will vary from person to person. What is tolerable for one may be
mind-shattering horrible to someone else.
If you feel strongly that you do not want to take any more of the Lupron
then refuse the next injection. You don't have to take it and nobody
can pin you down and force it in you.
Make sure you get a full written copy of your laparoscopy and all
pathology reports. Then, take that with you and seek out a NON-military
doctor. You are not the first woman who has had trouble receiving
proper medical care from military doctors.
Good luck, rest and heal... then move on with your life and hope it
gets better from here.
At Tue, 29 Mar 2005, Shannon wrote:
>
>At Tue, 29 Mar 2005, anonymous wrote:
>>
>>Unfortunately Shannon, you are not just married to your husband, you are
>>married to the entire US Navy, in fact, you are married to the entire US
>>Government - how's it feel to be in-laws with Dubya? (shudders)
>>
>>Anyway, were you able to follow any of the pre-surgery advice I've given
>>you over the past few weeks? Any friends to call? Do you live on or off
>>base? Isn't there usually wives groups on base and even off base so they
>>can call on each other for help with the kids, etc.?
>>
>>Keep a pillow handy so if it looks like one of the animals is going to
>>jump on you - you can hold the pillow out to protect yourself. The
>>external incisions will heal pretty quickly, you are being careful so
>>that you don't cause tears on the inside as well. You are sore because
>>of everything being touched and moved around and in a few days you will
>>be less sore. Pain meds are usually pretty necessary the first week.
>>Stay off the stairs as much as you possibly can - try to make only one
>>trip per day on them. You can move around just no bending, stretching
>>or lifting. Walking around is good for you and gentle stretches when
>>you stand up are ok too and will help prevent adhesions from forming.
>>
>>Most doctors will not interrupt the treatment prescribed unless there is
>>good reason to and apparently you haven't made it clear to this doctor
>>that there is good reason to quit the Lupron. The side-effects you have
>>listed previously are not outside of normal and expected with Lupron so
>>based upon that alone he doesn't see the need to stop treatment. I
>>think you should just sit tight and try to relax the next couple of
>>weeks until your doctor gets all the lab reports back and then decide
>>what you want to do next.
>>
>>One step at a time
>
>My doctor prescribed the Lupron before even having done the lap. (which
>was my stupidity for letting him). The lupron does NOT get rid of the
>endo. nor does it make it stop spreading. I have done so much research
>on the lupron. It is my body and I do not wish to have any more health
>problems than what I already do. This doctor is incompetent,
>insensitive, and a moron. The Endo. association says that 46.7 % of
>women they used for a study, had side effects and more health problems
>related to the endo. even after they stopped, 5 years later. That is
>insane. I do not want kids.
>I don't look at it as marrying the govt. or the military. I married my
>husband. He is his own person and not a doll. I grew up military and
>my father taught me that is not proper. Your family comes before all.
>The navy is his job...I did not marry that. He knew that well before we
>got married. I do not hang out with the military wives b/c all they
>like to do is gossip and start rumors and I have been there and done
>that. I have no tolerance for any of that. Not all military wives do
>that, but most, that I have met, do. I don't have any children. There
>is no way in this world I would live on a military base. I am not being
>grumpy to you..just mad at the military doctors and the b/s. My husband
>and I got legally separated today so that is that. I am going to CA to
>see Dr. Cook. I hope you are feeling better.
>
>>At Mon, 28 Mar 2005, Shannon wrote:
>>>
>>>I went in to get my lap. done today. The doctor made 2 incisions. One
>>>in my navel and the other right above my pelvic bone. They are both on
>>>the outside. Then the doctor gave me pain meds. through my IV and I
>>>had an instant horrific reaction to it. They had to give me 50 mg. of
>>>Benadryl. I am in so much pain, mainly due to the incision above my
>>>pelvic bone. I am not supposed to drive for 48 hours, shower, or move
>>>much. The doctor found 3 black tissue spots and took 3 biopsies of
>>>them. The ahole doctor just wants me to keep doing the Lupron
>>>injections and I told him that I don't want to do them any longer b/c of
>>>the side effects they are having on me. The doctor didn't give a shit
>>>about me and got an attitude with me. Since he made 2 incisions and
>>>took 3 biopsies, I am not supposed to do anything for 2 weeks.
>>>I have no family here in VA and my husband was supposed to take leave
>>>for the next few weeks and now he won't do it.
>>>I am petrified, in horrific and miserable pain, and the doctor isn't
>>>going to help me. I will be by myself until April 8th and I have to
>>>care for 2 cats and a big dog and I have 2 huge steep stairs to climb
>>>up.
>>>I know my husband is in the Navy, but how does his job come before my
>>>health?!
>>>I want a divorce! What if something happens to me while he is gone or if
>>>my dog messes up my stitches?
>>>I am deeply saddened and in severe shock.
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