Re: Pregnacy fears
From: Anna (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun Jan 23 22:14:24 2005
Rebecca,
I am in sort of the same boat as you are. The doctors are all saying to
get pregnant sooner rather than later. Only, I don't know yet if or how
much my reproductive organs have been harmed. My husband and I have
been trying to conceive since July with no luck. Last winter I got
pregnant but miscarried in the spring. I sort of wish we had started
trying to conceive sooner, like when I first found out I had endo. My
pain was so much less then, which tells me the endo might have been less
severe then. I just wonder if I waited too long. But this spring I am
having surgery and then I will know more, and it might be easier for me
to conceive. And who knows if I waited too long or not. I wasn't ready
to have a baby when I was first diagnosed with endo. That's important
too.
Having a baby is such a major decision. It puts us endo women in a
tight spot. It isn't wise to have a baby if you're not sure you are
ready. But then, you wonder if you are giving away your chance to
conceive by waiting. It's not easy. Like Brenda said, I recommed being
really open with your husband about it so that you are on the same page
in terms of what your options are.
I REALLY understand the difficulty of this decision.
*hugs*
-Anna
At Sun, 23 Jan 2005, Brenda wrote:
>
>Rebecca,
>
>I can't say I totally know how you feel, but I can sympathize. I was
>told to start having kids earlier rather than later also. The
>difference is neither my husband nor I really wanted kids at the time.
>So we decided to wait. Then it was funny, we just both decided at
>around the same time to start trying. Kind of weird, but it worked out
>for the best. Your husband may come around. What I would suggest is
>just letting him in. Keep him informed of everything the Doctor said to
>you. Let him know how you feel. This will at least let him know that
>you don't have the kind of time that most woman have of having children,
>and will also let him know that you are thinking about it. In a way, I
>wish I would have come to the decision earlier. We have been trying for
>a little over a year, and the longer I am off of meds the harder the
>pain gets each month. I hope this has helped. Feel free to email me if
>you want to talk more about it. brenatmilehigh@yahoo.com
>
>Bren
>
>At Sun, 23 Jan 2005, Rebecca wrote:
>>
>>I was diagnosed with endo two years ago, went through a round of Lupron
>>before having laparoscopy done just one year ago. The pain began to
>>return several monthes ago. I saw my doctor and discussed the fact that
>>I wanted to start a family and get pregnant and he told me that I needed
>>to get pregnant sooner rather than later and finish my family as soon as
>>possible. He said I was lucky my reproductive organs had not been
>>harmed. My husband is not ready for children yet, but with this
>>information I'm really scared now. Not only is my biological clock
>>going off, but now I have fear of waiting too long and not being able to
>>get pregnant added to all of this. Just wanted to talk to someone who
>>REALLY understands. Thanks for letting me vent.
>>Rebecca
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